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Hold on. If I'm going to be doing this,

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Hold on. If I'm going to be doing this,
 

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Hold on. If I'm going to be doing this,
I need the proper gear. Let me just

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I need the proper gear. Let me just
 

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I need the proper gear. Let me just
This will do. All right, sit down, you

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This will do. All right, sit down, you
 

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This will do. All right, sit down, you
monkeys. Now, before we start, some

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monkeys. Now, before we start, some
 

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monkeys. Now, before we start, some
ground rules. Any serious crimes

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ground rules. Any serious crimes
 

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ground rules. Any serious crimes
mentioned in this video is not meant to

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mentioned in this video is not meant to
 

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mentioned in this video is not meant to
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be funny. But I am going to poke fun at
 

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be funny. But I am going to poke fun at
just the general lack of education and

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just the general lack of education and
 

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just the general lack of education and
research presented as fact because it's

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research presented as fact because it's
 

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research presented as fact because it's
just getting a bit ridiculous at this

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just getting a bit ridiculous at this
 

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just getting a bit ridiculous at this
point. Not essays funny, but dumb people

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point. Not essays funny, but dumb people
 

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point. Not essays funny, but dumb people
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funny.
 

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funny.
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First off, people are under the
 

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First off, people are under the
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impression that I changed my mind about
 

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impression that I changed my mind about
the Chris Stephanos incident. But here's

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the Chris Stephanos incident. But here's
 

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the Chris Stephanos incident. But here's
what I actually did. Look into the

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what I actually did. Look into the
 

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what I actually did. Look into the
legality of what Chris's story would

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legality of what Chris's story would
 

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legality of what Chris's story would
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constitute as. Was he breaking any laws?
 

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constitute as. Was he breaking any laws?
Was I overreacting? And I found some

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Was I overreacting? And I found some
 

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Was I overreacting? And I found some
stuff. It's stuff that's not in his

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stuff. It's stuff that's not in his
 

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stuff. It's stuff that's not in his
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favor. I'm going to be a bit of legal
 

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favor. I'm going to be a bit of legal
eagle for some of this video. Hold on.

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eagle for some of this video. Hold on.
 

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eagle for some of this video. Hold on.
Even if there was no physical contact

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Even if there was no physical contact
with your body, ejaculating on someone's

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with your body, ejaculating on someone's
 

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with your body, ejaculating on someone's
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belongings without consent can fall
 

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belongings without consent can fall
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under several possible criminal
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categories depending on the state and
 

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categories depending on the state and
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circumstances.
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or onto someone's property without
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consent can be prosecuted under laws
 

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consent can be prosecuted under laws
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about sexual acts done for sexual
 

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about sexual acts done for sexual
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gratification without consent.
 

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gratification without consent.
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behavior to intimidate, humiliate, or
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violate you, this could be the threshold
 

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violate you, this could be the threshold
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of harassment charges.
 

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of harassment charges.
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someone's clothing as a form of property
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defacement or contamination.
But KP, I hear you thinking. Chris

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But KP, I hear you thinking. Chris
 

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But KP, I hear you thinking. Chris
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didn't actually do this. He admitted he
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was lying. In legal terms, Chris
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admitting that he lied about the
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incident, regardless if you believe him
 

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incident, regardless if you believe him
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or not, doesn't erase the action. The
 

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or not, doesn't erase the action. The
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law cares about the behavior itself, not
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their honesty afterwards. In fact, lying
 

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their honesty afterwards. In fact, lying
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can make it legally worse. It can
 

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can make it legally worse. It can
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demonstrate consciousness of guilt,
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which matters in legal investigations.
 

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which matters in legal investigations.
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false statements in writing, that could
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open them up to additional charges such
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as obstruction, false reporting. That's
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legally significant. It proves he knew
 

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legally significant. It proves he knew
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it was wrong. And it also suggests a
 

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it was wrong. And it also suggests a
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pattern of concealment, which is not
 

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pattern of concealment, which is not
nothing. That can matter in civil cases,

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nothing. That can matter in civil cases,
 

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nothing. That can matter in civil cases,
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workplace reports, or credibility
disputes even now. Even if it happened

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disputes even now. Even if it happened
 

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disputes even now. Even if it happened
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10 years ago, ejaculating on clothing
 

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10 years ago, ejaculating on clothing
while consent, whether he lied about it

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while consent, whether he lied about it
 

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while consent, whether he lied about it
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or not, is a sexual boundary violation.
 

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or not, is a sexual boundary violation.
Period. It's still a crime. Even if

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Period. It's still a crime. Even if
 

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Period. It's still a crime. Even if
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Chris did lie about it, that not only
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exacerbates the potential charges, it's
 

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exacerbates the potential charges, it's
not a prank, not boys being boys and not

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not a prank, not boys being boys and not
 

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not a prank, not boys being boys and not
something you two have to just shrug off

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something you two have to just shrug off
 

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something you two have to just shrug off
because it was decades ago. It might

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because it was decades ago. It might
 

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because it was decades ago. It might
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also come under discovery rule in civil
 

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also come under discovery rule in civil
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cases. Now, why would others state this
 

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cases. Now, why would others state this
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is just a joke? Well, psychologically,
 

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is just a joke? Well, psychologically,
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for a few reasons.
>> Number one, minimization as a defense

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>> Number one, minimization as a defense
 

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>> Number one, minimization as a defense
mechanism. Calling it a joke is a

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mechanism. Calling it a joke is a
 

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mechanism. Calling it a joke is a
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classic way to shrink the severity of
 

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classic way to shrink the severity of
the behavior that makes people

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the behavior that makes people
 

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the behavior that makes people
uncomfortable. It's easier on the psyche

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uncomfortable. It's easier on the psyche
 

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uncomfortable. It's easier on the psyche
to say it was just a prank than to face

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to say it was just a prank than to face
 

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to say it was just a prank than to face
reality that somebody crossed a sexual

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reality that somebody crossed a sexual
 

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reality that somebody crossed a sexual
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boundary. It reduces moral discomfort.
 

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boundary. It reduces moral discomfort.
If it's a joke, then maybe it wasn't

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If it's a joke, then maybe it wasn't
really that bad. It lets them avoid

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really that bad. It lets them avoid
 

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really that bad. It lets them avoid
re-evaluating their own values. Just

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re-evaluating their own values. Just
 

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re-evaluating their own values. Just
because they admit it's serious, they

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because they admit it's serious, they
 

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because they admit it's serious, they
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might also admit someone they like or
 

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might also admit someone they like or
trust did something wrong. It avoids the

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trust did something wrong. It avoids the
 

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trust did something wrong. It avoids the
pain of empathy because to empathize

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pain of empathy because to empathize
 

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pain of empathy because to empathize
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means to acknowledge that someone was
 

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means to acknowledge that someone was
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harmed. This is a form of cognitive
 

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harmed. This is a form of cognitive
dissonance reduction. people in resolve

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dissonance reduction. people in resolve
 

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dissonance reduction. people in resolve
internal conflict between I like this

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internal conflict between I like this
 

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internal conflict between I like this
person and this person did something

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person and this person did something
 

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person and this person did something
awful by downgrading the awful thing

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awful by downgrading the awful thing
 

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awful by downgrading the awful thing
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into a joke.
 

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into a joke.
Number two, protecting the in-group

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Number two, protecting the in-group
 

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Number two, protecting the in-group
power. If someone is a part of the same

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power. If someone is a part of the same
 

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power. If someone is a part of the same
social or fandom circle as Chris,

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social or fandom circle as Chris,
 

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social or fandom circle as Chris,
calling it just a joke is also a way to

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calling it just a joke is also a way to
 

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calling it just a joke is also a way to
protect the tribe. If it's serious,

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protect the tribe. If it's serious,
 

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protect the tribe. If it's serious,
they'd have to hold someone accountable,

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they'd have to hold someone accountable,
 

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they'd have to hold someone accountable,
and that threatens the group's image. If

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and that threatens the group's image. If
 

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and that threatens the group's image. If
it's just a joke, they can preserve the

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it's just a joke, they can preserve the
 

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it's just a joke, they can preserve the
community narrative and their own

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community narrative and their own
 

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community narrative and their own
comfort. This is especially common in

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comfort. This is especially common in
 

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comfort. This is especially common in
tight-knit online circles. People fear

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tight-knit online circles. People fear
 

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tight-knit online circles. People fear
that acknowledging wrongdoing will hurt

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that acknowledging wrongdoing will hurt
 

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that acknowledging wrongdoing will hurt
the fandom or give haters ammo, so they

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the fandom or give haters ammo, so they
 

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the fandom or give haters ammo, so they
rewrite the story to feel safer. Number

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rewrite the story to feel safer. Number
 

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rewrite the story to feel safer. Number
three, humor as a shield against guilt.

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three, humor as a shield against guilt.
 

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three, humor as a shield against guilt.
Psychologically, humor is one of the

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Psychologically, humor is one of the
 

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Psychologically, humor is one of the
fastest ways to neutralize guilt or

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fastest ways to neutralize guilt or
 

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fastest ways to neutralize guilt or
shame, even when it's deeply misplaced.

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shame, even when it's deeply misplaced.
 

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shame, even when it's deeply misplaced.
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joke, using sarcasm, they're
 

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joke, using sarcasm, they're
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subconsciously saying, "If I treat this
 

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subconsciously saying, "If I treat this
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as unserious, then maybe I don't have to
 

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as unserious, then maybe I don't have to
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contribute to the ugliness of it. It's a
 

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contribute to the ugliness of it. It's a
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shield. Not for you or the truth, but
 

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shield. Not for you or the truth, but
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their own discomfort.
 

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their own discomfort.
Number four, cultural conditioning. Boys

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Number four, cultural conditioning. Boys
 

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Number four, cultural conditioning. Boys
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will be boys. There's also the bigger
 

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will be boys. There's also the bigger
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picture. For decades, society has
 

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picture. For decades, society has
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normalized sexual mixed conduct when
 

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normalized sexual mixed conduct when
it's done by men and played for laughs.

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it's done by men and played for laughs.
 

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it's done by men and played for laughs.
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From brat movie pranks to sitcom plots,
the idea that ejaculating on someone's

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the idea that ejaculating on someone's
 

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the idea that ejaculating on someone's
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clothes is just gross humor is baked
 

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clothes is just gross humor is baked
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into pop culture. That conditioning
 

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into pop culture. That conditioning
leads people to default the minimization

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leads people to default the minimization
 

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leads people to default the minimization
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instead of asking, "Wait, was this an
 

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instead of asking, "Wait, was this an
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actual violation?"
 

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actual violation?"
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Number five, strategic manipulation. The
 

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Number five, strategic manipulation. The
cynical one. Some people know exactly

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cynical one. Some people know exactly
 

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cynical one. Some people know exactly
what they're doing. They call it a joke

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what they're doing. They call it a joke
 

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what they're doing. They call it a joke
strategically because they know it

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strategically because they know it
 

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strategically because they know it
undermines the seriousness of your

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undermines the seriousness of your
 

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undermines the seriousness of your
argument. It refrains the narrative from

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argument. It refrains the narrative from
 

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argument. It refrains the narrative from
sexual misconduct to overreaction.

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sexual misconduct to overreaction.
 

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sexual misconduct to overreaction.
shifting scrutiny away from the

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shifting scrutiny away from the
 

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shifting scrutiny away from the
perpetrator and onto the person calling

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perpetrator and onto the person calling
 

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perpetrator and onto the person calling
it out. That's not ignorance. That's

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it out. That's not ignorance. That's
 

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it out. That's not ignorance. That's
calculated and it's a classic PR tactic

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calculated and it's a classic PR tactic
 

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calculated and it's a classic PR tactic
in Crisis Comm, diminishing the language

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in Crisis Comm, diminishing the language
 

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in Crisis Comm, diminishing the language
so the public follows suit.

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so the public follows suit.
 

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so the public follows suit.
>> Him lying about it isn't just a side

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>> Him lying about it isn't just a side
 

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>> Him lying about it isn't just a side
note. It shows consciousness of guilt.

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note. It shows consciousness of guilt.
 

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note. It shows consciousness of guilt.
Now, to be clear, I should have asked

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Now, to be clear, I should have asked
 

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Now, to be clear, I should have asked
Chris if I could record the

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Chris if I could record the
 

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Chris if I could record the
confrontation with him and in hindsight

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confrontation with him and in hindsight
 

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confrontation with him and in hindsight
should have had him make a brief public

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should have had him make a brief public
 

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should have had him make a brief public
statement expanding the issue. I don't

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statement expanding the issue. I don't
 

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statement expanding the issue. I don't
think someone should be defined by

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think someone should be defined by
 

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think someone should be defined by
something they did that long ago. But

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something they did that long ago. But
 

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something they did that long ago. But
that's the thing. This just extends to

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that's the thing. This just extends to
 

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that's the thing. This just extends to
Chris. Since Chris admitted this to Will

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Chris. Since Chris admitted this to Will
 

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Chris. Since Chris admitted this to Will
Ryan, his boss, at least once, we can

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Ryan, his boss, at least once, we can
 

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Ryan, his boss, at least once, we can
assume if it happened on DA Games

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assume if it happened on DA Games
 

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assume if it happened on DA Games
Company time, which also breaks

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Company time, which also breaks
 

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Company time, which also breaks
additional laws. Title 7 of the Civil

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additional laws. Title 7 of the Civil
 

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additional laws. Title 7 of the Civil
Rights Act of 1964 prohibits sexual

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Rights Act of 1964 prohibits sexual
 

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Rights Act of 1964 prohibits sexual
harassment in the workplace. EEOC

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harassment in the workplace. EEOC
 

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harassment in the workplace. EEOC
regulations define sexual harassment

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regulations define sexual harassment
 

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regulations define sexual harassment
broadly, including non-cont sexual

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broadly, including non-cont sexual
 

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broadly, including non-cont sexual
behavior like masturbating near someone,

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behavior like masturbating near someone,
 

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behavior like masturbating near someone,
ejaculating on their belongings, or

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ejaculating on their belongings, or
 

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ejaculating on their belongings, or
creating a sexually hostile environment.

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creating a sexually hostile environment.
 

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creating a sexually hostile environment.
The OSHA or Occupational Safety and

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The OSHA or Occupational Safety and
 

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The OSHA or Occupational Safety and
Health Act nerd requires employers to

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Health Act nerd requires employers to
 

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Health Act nerd requires employers to
provide a safe harassment free

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provide a safe harassment free
 

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provide a safe harassment free
workplace. Even if he did it in secret,

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workplace. Even if he did it in secret,
 

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workplace. Even if he did it in secret,
the company is legally responsible if he

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the company is legally responsible if he
 

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the company is legally responsible if he
was acting in a work capacity. The

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was acting in a work capacity. The
 

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was acting in a work capacity. The
company should have known and failed to

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company should have known and failed to
 

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company should have known and failed to
act. They did nothing after learning

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act. They did nothing after learning
 

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act. They did nothing after learning
about it later. The US Equal Employment

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about it later. The US Equal Employment
 

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about it later. The US Equal Employment
Opportunity Commission defines sexual

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Opportunity Commission defines sexual
 

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Opportunity Commission defines sexual
harassment as unwelcome sexual advances,

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harassment as unwelcome sexual advances,
 

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harassment as unwelcome sexual advances,
requests for sexual favors, and other

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requests for sexual favors, and other
 

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requests for sexual favors, and other
verbal or physical conduct of sexual

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verbal or physical conduct of sexual
 

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verbal or physical conduct of sexual
nature that affects an individual's

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nature that affects an individual's
 

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nature that affects an individual's
employment or creates an intimidating,

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employment or creates an intimidating,
 

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employment or creates an intimidating,
hostile, or offensive work environment.

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hostile, or offensive work environment.
 

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hostile, or offensive work environment.
The problem wasn't just Chris did this.

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The problem wasn't just Chris did this.
 

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The problem wasn't just Chris did this.
It's the bigger problem that DA Games

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It's the bigger problem that DA Games
 

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It's the bigger problem that DA Games
didn't take accountability for letting

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didn't take accountability for letting
 

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didn't take accountability for letting
this incident go unchallenged within the

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this incident go unchallenged within the
 

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this incident go unchallenged within the
company on top of a continued conduct in

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company on top of a continued conduct in
 

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company on top of a continued conduct in
these spaces. People seem to have

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these spaces. People seem to have
 

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these spaces. People seem to have
assumed that because these examples are

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assumed that because these examples are
 

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assumed that because these examples are
old, this stuff still isn't going on. DA

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old, this stuff still isn't going on. DA
 

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old, this stuff still isn't going on. DA
Games isn't actively trying to hide this

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Games isn't actively trying to hide this
 

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Games isn't actively trying to hide this
currently in the year of our Lord 2025.

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currently in the year of our Lord 2025.
 

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currently in the year of our Lord 2025.
Did you guys watch the videos I linked?

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Did you guys watch the videos I linked?
 

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Did you guys watch the videos I linked?
This was again exacerbated in the

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This was again exacerbated in the
 

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This was again exacerbated in the
original email exchange I had with DA

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original email exchange I had with DA
 

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original email exchange I had with DA
Games where, and let me remind you, it

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Games where, and let me remind you, it
 

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Games where, and let me remind you, it
wasn't just the nature of what Chris

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wasn't just the nature of what Chris
 

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wasn't just the nature of what Chris
said. It's how the company reacted,

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said. It's how the company reacted,
 

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said. It's how the company reacted,
didn't explain why they didn't bring

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didn't explain why they didn't bring
 

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didn't explain why they didn't bring
this up to my attention earlier, and

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this up to my attention earlier, and
 

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this up to my attention earlier, and
refused to take accountability unless an

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refused to take accountability unless an
 

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refused to take accountability unless an
NDA was required. Will's problematic

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NDA was required. Will's problematic
 

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NDA was required. Will's problematic
behavior is not extended to just a few

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behavior is not extended to just a few
 

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behavior is not extended to just a few
bad memes, but possessing illegal

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bad memes, but possessing illegal
 

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bad memes, but possessing illegal
materials to minors on top of proven not

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materials to minors on top of proven not
 

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materials to minors on top of proven not
subjective grooming going on in the

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subjective grooming going on in the
 

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subjective grooming going on in the
server, including having his minor

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server, including having his minor
 

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server, including having his minor
girlfriend living with him at one point.

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girlfriend living with him at one point.
 

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girlfriend living with him at one point.
And yes, all this is illegal. Guys, Will

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And yes, all this is illegal. Guys, Will
 

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And yes, all this is illegal. Guys, Will
is breaking multiple laws and

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is breaking multiple laws and
 

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is breaking multiple laws and
endangering minors, and I guess we're

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endangering minors, and I guess we're
 

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endangering minors, and I guess we're
just going to ignore it. I wanted a

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just going to ignore it. I wanted a
 

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just going to ignore it. I wanted a
conversation about accountability and

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conversation about accountability and
 

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conversation about accountability and
honoring that this is happening on

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honoring that this is happening on
 

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honoring that this is happening on
company time is not okay, and to prove

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company time is not okay, and to prove
 

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company time is not okay, and to prove
that reform is actually happening. But

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that reform is actually happening. But
 

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that reform is actually happening. But
then I learned that this has been a big

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then I learned that this has been a big
 

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then I learned that this has been a big
problem in the company for a long time

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problem in the company for a long time
 

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problem in the company for a long time
and I wanted to cover that. I do feel

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and I wanted to cover that. I do feel
 

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and I wanted to cover that. I do feel
bad that Will's behavior and approach

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bad that Will's behavior and approach
 

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bad that Will's behavior and approach
isn't the direct result of anyone else's

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isn't the direct result of anyone else's
 

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isn't the direct result of anyone else's
actions, but they are excusing them by

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actions, but they are excusing them by
 

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actions, but they are excusing them by
continued association and alleged

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continued association and alleged
 

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continued association and alleged
enablement.

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enablement.
 

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enablement.
>> The UK workplace law perspective. Now,

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>> The UK workplace law perspective. Now,
 

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>> The UK workplace law perspective. Now,
let's talk about how UK law views

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let's talk about how UK law views
 

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let's talk about how UK law views
something like Chris's act. Spoiler, the

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something like Chris's act. Spoiler, the
 

459
00:07:49,039 --> 00:07:51,670
something like Chris's act. Spoiler, the
joke framing holds no weight legally.

460
00:07:51,670 --> 00:07:51,680
joke framing holds no weight legally.
 

461
00:07:51,680 --> 00:07:54,150
joke framing holds no weight legally.
Under UK law, ejaculating on someone's

462
00:07:54,150 --> 00:07:54,160
Under UK law, ejaculating on someone's
 

463
00:07:54,160 --> 00:07:56,309
Under UK law, ejaculating on someone's
belongings without consent, especially

464
00:07:56,309 --> 00:07:56,319
belongings without consent, especially
 

465
00:07:56,319 --> 00:07:58,469
belongings without consent, especially
in the workplace, can breach multiple

466
00:07:58,469 --> 00:07:58,479
in the workplace, can breach multiple
 

467
00:07:58,479 --> 00:08:01,510
in the workplace, can breach multiple
serious legal standards. Number one, the

468
00:08:01,510 --> 00:08:01,520
serious legal standards. Number one, the
 

469
00:08:01,520 --> 00:08:05,430
serious legal standards. Number one, the
Equality Act of 2010, sexual harassment.

470
00:08:05,430 --> 00:08:05,440
Equality Act of 2010, sexual harassment.
 

471
00:08:05,440 --> 00:08:07,589
Equality Act of 2010, sexual harassment.
The Equality Act defined sexual

472
00:08:07,589 --> 00:08:07,599
The Equality Act defined sexual
 

473
00:08:07,599 --> 00:08:10,309
The Equality Act defined sexual
harassment as unwanted conduct of a

474
00:08:10,309 --> 00:08:10,319
harassment as unwanted conduct of a
 

475
00:08:10,319 --> 00:08:12,550
harassment as unwanted conduct of a
sexual nature which has the purpose or

476
00:08:12,550 --> 00:08:12,560
sexual nature which has the purpose or
 

477
00:08:12,560 --> 00:08:15,029
sexual nature which has the purpose or
effect of violating someone's dignity or

478
00:08:15,029 --> 00:08:15,039
effect of violating someone's dignity or
 

479
00:08:15,039 --> 00:08:18,869
effect of violating someone's dignity or
creating an intimidating, hostile,

480
00:08:18,869 --> 00:08:18,879
creating an intimidating, hostile,
 

481
00:08:18,879 --> 00:08:21,909
creating an intimidating, hostile,
degrading, humiliating, or offensive

482
00:08:21,909 --> 00:08:21,919
degrading, humiliating, or offensive
 

483
00:08:21,919 --> 00:08:24,309
degrading, humiliating, or offensive
environment. Ejaculating on someone's

484
00:08:24,309 --> 00:08:24,319
environment. Ejaculating on someone's
 

485
00:08:24,319 --> 00:08:26,390
environment. Ejaculating on someone's
clothes, even without physical conduct,

486
00:08:26,390 --> 00:08:26,400
clothes, even without physical conduct,
 

487
00:08:26,400 --> 00:08:29,029
clothes, even without physical conduct,
squarely qualifies. The intent doesn't

488
00:08:29,029 --> 00:08:29,039
squarely qualifies. The intent doesn't
 

489
00:08:29,039 --> 00:08:31,749
squarely qualifies. The intent doesn't
matter. The effect on the victim does.

490
00:08:31,749 --> 00:08:31,759
matter. The effect on the victim does.
 

491
00:08:31,759 --> 00:08:33,909
matter. The effect on the victim does.
Joking or claiming it was a prank is

492
00:08:33,909 --> 00:08:33,919
Joking or claiming it was a prank is
 

493
00:08:33,919 --> 00:08:36,550
Joking or claiming it was a prank is
irrelevant under the law.

494
00:08:36,550 --> 00:08:36,560
irrelevant under the law.
 

495
00:08:36,560 --> 00:08:38,949
irrelevant under the law.
Employers have a legal duty to prevent

496
00:08:38,949 --> 00:08:38,959
Employers have a legal duty to prevent
 

497
00:08:38,959 --> 00:08:40,949
Employers have a legal duty to prevent
and address this behavior. Failure to

498
00:08:40,949 --> 00:08:40,959
and address this behavior. Failure to
 

499
00:08:40,959 --> 00:08:44,550
and address this behavior. Failure to
act can make them vicariously liable.

500
00:08:44,550 --> 00:08:44,560
act can make them vicariously liable.
 

501
00:08:44,560 --> 00:08:47,509
act can make them vicariously liable.
Number two, health and safety at work

502
00:08:47,509 --> 00:08:47,519
Number two, health and safety at work
 

503
00:08:47,519 --> 00:08:49,829
Number two, health and safety at work
act 1974.

504
00:08:49,829 --> 00:08:49,839
act 1974.
 

505
00:08:49,839 --> 00:08:52,470
act 1974.
Employers must provide a workspace safe

506
00:08:52,470 --> 00:08:52,480
Employers must provide a workspace safe
 

507
00:08:52,480 --> 00:08:54,550
Employers must provide a workspace safe
from risks and health. Sexual

508
00:08:54,550 --> 00:08:54,560
from risks and health. Sexual
 

509
00:08:54,560 --> 00:08:56,949
from risks and health. Sexual
harassment, not even physical, creates a

510
00:08:56,949 --> 00:08:56,959
harassment, not even physical, creates a
 

511
00:08:56,959 --> 00:08:59,509
harassment, not even physical, creates a
physiologically unsafe workplace.

512
00:08:59,509 --> 00:08:59,519
physiologically unsafe workplace.
 

513
00:08:59,519 --> 00:09:02,230
physiologically unsafe workplace.
Failing to prevent or investigate it can

514
00:09:02,230 --> 00:09:02,240
Failing to prevent or investigate it can
 

515
00:09:02,240 --> 00:09:05,350
Failing to prevent or investigate it can
breach this act. Number three, Criminal

516
00:09:05,350 --> 00:09:05,360
breach this act. Number three, Criminal
 

517
00:09:05,360 --> 00:09:08,710
breach this act. Number three, Criminal
Law Sexual Offense Act 2003. While

518
00:09:08,710 --> 00:09:08,720
Law Sexual Offense Act 2003. While
 

519
00:09:08,720 --> 00:09:10,150
Law Sexual Offense Act 2003. While
prosecution would depend on

520
00:09:10,150 --> 00:09:10,160
prosecution would depend on
 

521
00:09:10,160 --> 00:09:12,230
prosecution would depend on
circumstances, acts involving sexual

522
00:09:12,230 --> 00:09:12,240
circumstances, acts involving sexual
 

523
00:09:12,240 --> 00:09:14,949
circumstances, acts involving sexual
activity without consent directed at

524
00:09:14,949 --> 00:09:14,959
activity without consent directed at
 

525
00:09:14,959 --> 00:09:17,030
activity without consent directed at
property can be fall under sections

526
00:09:17,030 --> 00:09:17,040
property can be fall under sections
 

527
00:09:17,040 --> 00:09:19,829
property can be fall under sections
covering indecent exposure, outraging

528
00:09:19,829 --> 00:09:19,839
covering indecent exposure, outraging
 

529
00:09:19,839 --> 00:09:22,230
covering indecent exposure, outraging
public decency, sexual assault if

530
00:09:22,230 --> 00:09:22,240
public decency, sexual assault if
 

531
00:09:22,240 --> 00:09:25,509
public decency, sexual assault if
contact occurred, harassment or stalking

532
00:09:25,509 --> 00:09:25,519
contact occurred, harassment or stalking
 

533
00:09:25,519 --> 00:09:27,509
contact occurred, harassment or stalking
if part of a pattern. There have been UK

534
00:09:27,509 --> 00:09:27,519
if part of a pattern. There have been UK
 

535
00:09:27,519 --> 00:09:29,430
if part of a pattern. There have been UK
cases where ejaculating on properly or

536
00:09:29,430 --> 00:09:29,440
cases where ejaculating on properly or
 

537
00:09:29,440 --> 00:09:31,990
cases where ejaculating on properly or
living bodily fluids was prosecuted as

538
00:09:31,990 --> 00:09:32,000
living bodily fluids was prosecuted as
 

539
00:09:32,000 --> 00:09:34,790
living bodily fluids was prosecuted as
sexual misconduct or harassment.

540
00:09:34,790 --> 00:09:34,800
sexual misconduct or harassment.
 

541
00:09:34,800 --> 00:09:37,269
sexual misconduct or harassment.
Number four, employment tribunal

542
00:09:37,269 --> 00:09:37,279
Number four, employment tribunal
 

543
00:09:37,279 --> 00:09:39,829
Number four, employment tribunal
precedence. UK employment tribunals have

544
00:09:39,829 --> 00:09:39,839
precedence. UK employment tribunals have
 

545
00:09:39,839 --> 00:09:41,910
precedence. UK employment tribunals have
repeatedly ruled that non-cont sexual

546
00:09:41,910 --> 00:09:41,920
repeatedly ruled that non-cont sexual
 

547
00:09:41,920 --> 00:09:43,750
repeatedly ruled that non-cont sexual
acts like exposing oneself, setting

548
00:09:43,750 --> 00:09:43,760
acts like exposing oneself, setting
 

549
00:09:43,760 --> 00:09:45,590
acts like exposing oneself, setting
explicit materials, or masturbating near

550
00:09:45,590 --> 00:09:45,600
explicit materials, or masturbating near
 

551
00:09:45,600 --> 00:09:48,470
explicit materials, or masturbating near
someone constitute sexual harassment if

552
00:09:48,470 --> 00:09:48,480
someone constitute sexual harassment if
 

553
00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:50,870
someone constitute sexual harassment if
they create a hostile environment. Doing

554
00:09:50,870 --> 00:09:50,880
they create a hostile environment. Doing
 

555
00:09:50,880 --> 00:09:52,790
they create a hostile environment. Doing
this on company time or property

556
00:09:52,790 --> 00:09:52,800
this on company time or property
 

557
00:09:52,800 --> 00:09:55,670
this on company time or property
dramatically increases liability.

558
00:09:55,670 --> 00:09:55,680
dramatically increases liability.
 

559
00:09:55,680 --> 00:09:58,070
dramatically increases liability.
But KP, I hear your thoughts. You lied

560
00:09:58,070 --> 00:09:58,080
But KP, I hear your thoughts. You lied
 

561
00:09:58,080 --> 00:09:59,990
But KP, I hear your thoughts. You lied
about the statement. That part was an

562
00:09:59,990 --> 00:10:00,000
about the statement. That part was an
 

563
00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:01,750
about the statement. That part was an
assumption. In my original statement

564
00:10:01,750 --> 00:10:01,760
assumption. In my original statement
 

565
00:10:01,760 --> 00:10:03,990
assumption. In my original statement
about this incident, I said I've never

566
00:10:03,990 --> 00:10:04,000
about this incident, I said I've never
 

567
00:10:04,000 --> 00:10:05,910
about this incident, I said I've never
made a video like this, which Mr. Enter

568
00:10:05,910 --> 00:10:05,920
made a video like this, which Mr. Enter
 

569
00:10:05,920 --> 00:10:08,230
made a video like this, which Mr. Enter
a lie. Even though I never had a chance

570
00:10:08,230 --> 00:10:08,240
a lie. Even though I never had a chance
 

571
00:10:08,240 --> 00:10:10,310
a lie. Even though I never had a chance
to clarify, nor did he reach out to

572
00:10:10,310 --> 00:10:10,320
to clarify, nor did he reach out to
 

573
00:10:10,320 --> 00:10:12,389
to clarify, nor did he reach out to
clarify. He kind of just ran with it.

574
00:10:12,389 --> 00:10:12,399
clarify. He kind of just ran with it.
 

575
00:10:12,399 --> 00:10:14,389
clarify. He kind of just ran with it.
What I was referring to is that I had

576
00:10:14,389 --> 00:10:14,399
What I was referring to is that I had
 

577
00:10:14,399 --> 00:10:16,389
What I was referring to is that I had
never broken a case like the DA Games or

578
00:10:16,389 --> 00:10:16,399
never broken a case like the DA Games or
 

579
00:10:16,399 --> 00:10:18,470
never broken a case like the DA Games or
the Saber allegations. The video I did

580
00:10:18,470 --> 00:10:18,480
the Saber allegations. The video I did
 

581
00:10:18,480 --> 00:10:20,150
the Saber allegations. The video I did
covering Lily Orchard was done with

582
00:10:20,150 --> 00:10:20,160
covering Lily Orchard was done with
 

583
00:10:20,160 --> 00:10:21,350
covering Lily Orchard was done with
statements with victims that were

584
00:10:21,350 --> 00:10:21,360
statements with victims that were
 

585
00:10:21,360 --> 00:10:23,190
statements with victims that were
already publicly logged. The only new

586
00:10:23,190 --> 00:10:23,200
already publicly logged. The only new
 

587
00:10:23,200 --> 00:10:25,190
already publicly logged. The only new
information was my own experiences. This

588
00:10:25,190 --> 00:10:25,200
information was my own experiences. This
 

589
00:10:25,200 --> 00:10:27,350
information was my own experiences. This
was totally different. But the voice

590
00:10:27,350 --> 00:10:27,360
was totally different. But the voice
 

591
00:10:27,360 --> 00:10:29,430
was totally different. But the voice
actor incident, no one brought up this

592
00:10:29,430 --> 00:10:29,440
actor incident, no one brought up this
 

593
00:10:29,440 --> 00:10:30,790
actor incident, no one brought up this
directly in the comments, but some

594
00:10:30,790 --> 00:10:30,800
directly in the comments, but some
 

595
00:10:30,800 --> 00:10:31,990
directly in the comments, but some
commented on the fact that I asked

596
00:10:31,990 --> 00:10:32,000
commented on the fact that I asked
 

597
00:10:32,000 --> 00:10:33,990
commented on the fact that I asked
people to work on a volunteer basis. I

598
00:10:33,990 --> 00:10:34,000
people to work on a volunteer basis. I
 

599
00:10:34,000 --> 00:10:35,509
people to work on a volunteer basis. I
understand that volunteering is a very

600
00:10:35,509 --> 00:10:35,519
understand that volunteering is a very
 

601
00:10:35,519 --> 00:10:36,949
understand that volunteering is a very
personal choice for many, but something

602
00:10:36,949 --> 00:10:36,959
personal choice for many, but something
 

603
00:10:36,959 --> 00:10:38,470
personal choice for many, but something
that was left out in the exchange he

604
00:10:38,470 --> 00:10:38,480
that was left out in the exchange he
 

605
00:10:38,480 --> 00:10:40,150
that was left out in the exchange he
showed is that he offered to do this in

606
00:10:40,150 --> 00:10:40,160
showed is that he offered to do this in
 

607
00:10:40,160 --> 00:10:42,630
showed is that he offered to do this in
the past. The spicy comment was just a

608
00:10:42,630 --> 00:10:42,640
the past. The spicy comment was just a
 

609
00:10:42,640 --> 00:10:44,230
the past. The spicy comment was just a
critique on it being non-traditional to

610
00:10:44,230 --> 00:10:44,240
critique on it being non-traditional to
 

611
00:10:44,240 --> 00:10:45,910
critique on it being non-traditional to
my usual content, which is why something

612
00:10:45,910 --> 00:10:45,920
my usual content, which is why something
 

613
00:10:45,920 --> 00:10:47,670
my usual content, which is why something
like this posted without context or

614
00:10:47,670 --> 00:10:47,680
like this posted without context or
 

615
00:10:47,680 --> 00:10:49,509
like this posted without context or
consent should have happened. This same

616
00:10:49,509 --> 00:10:49,519
consent should have happened. This same
 

617
00:10:49,519 --> 00:10:50,949
consent should have happened. This same
person then complained the use of the

618
00:10:50,949 --> 00:10:50,959
person then complained the use of the
 

619
00:10:50,959 --> 00:10:52,310
person then complained the use of the
same image in Saber's video was a

620
00:10:52,310 --> 00:10:52,320
same image in Saber's video was a
 

621
00:10:52,320 --> 00:10:53,509
same image in Saber's video was a
violation of their consent, which I

622
00:10:53,509 --> 00:10:53,519
violation of their consent, which I
 

623
00:10:53,519 --> 00:10:56,230
violation of their consent, which I
found both ironic and hypocritical.

624
00:10:56,230 --> 00:10:56,240
found both ironic and hypocritical.
 

625
00:10:56,240 --> 00:10:58,790
found both ironic and hypocritical.
But cartoon she? Well, I first would

626
00:10:58,790 --> 00:10:58,800
But cartoon she? Well, I first would
 

627
00:10:58,800 --> 00:11:00,230
But cartoon she? Well, I first would
like to thank this guy for being fair

628
00:11:00,230 --> 00:11:00,240
like to thank this guy for being fair
 

629
00:11:00,240 --> 00:11:01,350
like to thank this guy for being fair
compared to the rest of you [\h__\h]

630
00:11:01,350 --> 00:11:01,360
compared to the rest of you [\h__\h]
 

631
00:11:01,360 --> 00:11:03,430
compared to the rest of you [\h__\h]
Hogians. But I want to stop right in the

632
00:11:03,430 --> 00:11:03,440
Hogians. But I want to stop right in the
 

633
00:11:03,440 --> 00:11:07,110
Hogians. But I want to stop right in the
midi loft this now. Although you and

634
00:11:07,110 --> 00:11:07,120
midi loft this now. Although you and
 

635
00:11:07,120 --> 00:11:09,269
midi loft this now. Although you and
anyone can say this is my opinion, the

636
00:11:09,269 --> 00:11:09,279
anyone can say this is my opinion, the
 

637
00:11:09,279 --> 00:11:10,389
anyone can say this is my opinion, the
argument doesn't work when you are

638
00:11:10,389 --> 00:11:10,399
argument doesn't work when you are
 

639
00:11:10,399 --> 00:11:11,509
argument doesn't work when you are
literally one of the first sources to

640
00:11:11,509 --> 00:11:11,519
literally one of the first sources to
 

641
00:11:11,519 --> 00:11:12,870
literally one of the first sources to
report on the issue before I have the

642
00:11:12,870 --> 00:11:12,880
report on the issue before I have the
 

643
00:11:12,880 --> 00:11:14,389
report on the issue before I have the
chance to figure out how to respond.

644
00:11:14,389 --> 00:11:14,399
chance to figure out how to respond.
 

645
00:11:14,399 --> 00:11:15,990
chance to figure out how to respond.
This isn't an opinion you're peeing into

646
00:11:15,990 --> 00:11:16,000
This isn't an opinion you're peeing into
 

647
00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:17,750
This isn't an opinion you're peeing into
the void. This is an opinion that is

648
00:11:17,750 --> 00:11:17,760
the void. This is an opinion that is
 

649
00:11:17,760 --> 00:11:18,870
the void. This is an opinion that is
actively shaping how people are

650
00:11:18,870 --> 00:11:18,880
actively shaping how people are
 

651
00:11:18,880 --> 00:11:20,470
actively shaping how people are
responding to the story and listening to

652
00:11:20,470 --> 00:11:20,480
responding to the story and listening to
 

653
00:11:20,480 --> 00:11:22,069
responding to the story and listening to
an opinion about a video that was taken

654
00:11:22,069 --> 00:11:22,079
an opinion about a video that was taken
 

655
00:11:22,079 --> 00:11:23,430
an opinion about a video that was taken
down. If you would have waited on me

656
00:11:23,430 --> 00:11:23,440
down. If you would have waited on me
 

657
00:11:23,440 --> 00:11:24,870
down. If you would have waited on me
before posting, the main part of your

658
00:11:24,870 --> 00:11:24,880
before posting, the main part of your
 

659
00:11:24,880 --> 00:11:26,310
before posting, the main part of your
video could have been the DA Games

660
00:11:26,310 --> 00:11:26,320
video could have been the DA Games
 

661
00:11:26,320 --> 00:11:27,670
video could have been the DA Games
highlights, which was originally the

662
00:11:27,670 --> 00:11:27,680
highlights, which was originally the
 

663
00:11:27,680 --> 00:11:29,269
highlights, which was originally the
goal. I don't know. I don't think you

664
00:11:29,269 --> 00:11:29,279
goal. I don't know. I don't think you
 

665
00:11:29,279 --> 00:11:30,630
goal. I don't know. I don't think you
thought about it, but coverage like that

666
00:11:30,630 --> 00:11:30,640
thought about it, but coverage like that
 

667
00:11:30,640 --> 00:11:32,389
thought about it, but coverage like that
also has consequences of harassment if

668
00:11:32,389 --> 00:11:32,399
also has consequences of harassment if
 

669
00:11:32,399 --> 00:11:33,990
also has consequences of harassment if
not addressed carefully. That's why I

670
00:11:33,990 --> 00:11:34,000
not addressed carefully. That's why I
 

671
00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:35,910
not addressed carefully. That's why I
took my own video down. Those factors

672
00:11:35,910 --> 00:11:35,920
took my own video down. Those factors
 

673
00:11:35,920 --> 00:11:37,590
took my own video down. Those factors
can be drastically irresponsible if you

674
00:11:37,590 --> 00:11:37,600
can be drastically irresponsible if you
 

675
00:11:37,600 --> 00:11:39,190
can be drastically irresponsible if you
are leading with interpretations and

676
00:11:39,190 --> 00:11:39,200
are leading with interpretations and
 

677
00:11:39,200 --> 00:11:40,870
are leading with interpretations and
facts that aren't backed up. Plus, it

678
00:11:40,870 --> 00:11:40,880
facts that aren't backed up. Plus, it
 

679
00:11:40,880 --> 00:11:42,470
facts that aren't backed up. Plus, it
seems like your goal was clear from the

680
00:11:42,470 --> 00:11:42,480
seems like your goal was clear from the
 

681
00:11:42,480 --> 00:11:44,150
seems like your goal was clear from the
start. For example, here's a clip from

682
00:11:44,150 --> 00:11:44,160
start. For example, here's a clip from
 

683
00:11:44,160 --> 00:11:45,670
start. For example, here's a clip from
the original video that cartoon she

684
00:11:45,670 --> 00:11:45,680
the original video that cartoon she
 

685
00:11:45,680 --> 00:11:48,310
the original video that cartoon she
interpreted as an ego reflection. Maybe

686
00:11:48,310 --> 00:11:48,320
interpreted as an ego reflection. Maybe
 

687
00:11:48,320 --> 00:11:49,990
interpreted as an ego reflection. Maybe
I said that because John Stewart and I

688
00:11:49,990 --> 00:11:50,000
I said that because John Stewart and I
 

689
00:11:50,000 --> 00:11:52,069
I said that because John Stewart and I
are also Jewish and I relate to his

690
00:11:52,069 --> 00:11:52,079
are also Jewish and I relate to his
 

691
00:11:52,079 --> 00:11:53,829
are also Jewish and I relate to his
representation. No matter how you

692
00:11:53,829 --> 00:11:53,839
representation. No matter how you
 

693
00:11:53,839 --> 00:11:55,590
representation. No matter how you
characterize it, this had an influence.

694
00:11:55,590 --> 00:11:55,600
characterize it, this had an influence.
 

695
00:11:55,600 --> 00:11:57,190
characterize it, this had an influence.
You are responsible for how the public

696
00:11:57,190 --> 00:11:57,200
You are responsible for how the public
 

697
00:11:57,200 --> 00:11:59,750
You are responsible for how the public
reacts just like everyone else. But what

698
00:11:59,750 --> 00:11:59,760
reacts just like everyone else. But what
 

699
00:11:59,760 --> 00:12:02,069
reacts just like everyone else. But what
about Brony Fand? For those of you who

700
00:12:02,069 --> 00:12:02,079
about Brony Fand? For those of you who
 

701
00:12:02,079 --> 00:12:03,910
about Brony Fand? For those of you who
don't remember, Bernie Fandone is a user

702
00:12:03,910 --> 00:12:03,920
don't remember, Bernie Fandone is a user
 

703
00:12:03,920 --> 00:12:04,949
don't remember, Bernie Fandone is a user
who originally broke the original

704
00:12:04,949 --> 00:12:04,959
who originally broke the original
 

705
00:12:04,959 --> 00:12:06,310
who originally broke the original
allegation on another YouTuber named

706
00:12:06,310 --> 00:12:06,320
allegation on another YouTuber named
 

707
00:12:06,320 --> 00:12:08,069
allegation on another YouTuber named
Black Griffin. You are welcome to

708
00:12:08,069 --> 00:12:08,079
Black Griffin. You are welcome to
 

709
00:12:08,079 --> 00:12:09,750
Black Griffin. You are welcome to
research that case if you are new and

710
00:12:09,750 --> 00:12:09,760
research that case if you are new and
 

711
00:12:09,760 --> 00:12:11,509
research that case if you are new and
come up with your own conclusions. But

712
00:12:11,509 --> 00:12:11,519
come up with your own conclusions. But
 

713
00:12:11,519 --> 00:12:13,110
come up with your own conclusions. But
what I didn't know at the time is that

714
00:12:13,110 --> 00:12:13,120
what I didn't know at the time is that
 

715
00:12:13,120 --> 00:12:14,710
what I didn't know at the time is that
Fandote is also someone who has a very

716
00:12:14,710 --> 00:12:14,720
Fandote is also someone who has a very
 

717
00:12:14,720 --> 00:12:16,550
Fandote is also someone who has a very
problematic views. I don't know why

718
00:12:16,550 --> 00:12:16,560
problematic views. I don't know why
 

719
00:12:16,560 --> 00:12:17,910
problematic views. I don't know why
you're hunting predators if you talk

720
00:12:17,910 --> 00:12:17,920
you're hunting predators if you talk
 

721
00:12:17,920 --> 00:12:19,990
you're hunting predators if you talk
about Lollcon like this. Also, for the

722
00:12:19,990 --> 00:12:20,000
about Lollcon like this. Also, for the
 

723
00:12:20,000 --> 00:12:21,750
about Lollcon like this. Also, for the
record, it was Brony Fandone's idea to

724
00:12:21,750 --> 00:12:21,760
record, it was Brony Fandone's idea to
 

725
00:12:21,760 --> 00:12:23,269
record, it was Brony Fandone's idea to
connect me to Amy with the intention of

726
00:12:23,269 --> 00:12:23,279
connect me to Amy with the intention of
 

727
00:12:23,279 --> 00:12:24,870
connect me to Amy with the intention of
putting said testimony in the video,

728
00:12:24,870 --> 00:12:24,880
putting said testimony in the video,
 

729
00:12:24,880 --> 00:12:26,470
putting said testimony in the video,
misunderstood me, and then proceeded to

730
00:12:26,470 --> 00:12:26,480
misunderstood me, and then proceeded to
 

731
00:12:26,480 --> 00:12:27,990
misunderstood me, and then proceeded to
throw me under the bus, even though he

732
00:12:27,990 --> 00:12:28,000
throw me under the bus, even though he
 

733
00:12:28,000 --> 00:12:29,590
throw me under the bus, even though he
said he wasn't going to do that. I don't

734
00:12:29,590 --> 00:12:29,600
said he wasn't going to do that. I don't
 

735
00:12:29,600 --> 00:12:31,430
said he wasn't going to do that. I don't
really have any comments besides I won't

736
00:12:31,430 --> 00:12:31,440
really have any comments besides I won't
 

737
00:12:31,440 --> 00:12:32,790
really have any comments besides I won't
be engaging with him again. The

738
00:12:32,790 --> 00:12:32,800
be engaging with him again. The
 

739
00:12:32,800 --> 00:12:35,430
be engaging with him again. The
creepiness I wasn't aware of, and he is

740
00:12:35,430 --> 00:12:35,440
creepiness I wasn't aware of, and he is
 

741
00:12:35,440 --> 00:12:37,750
creepiness I wasn't aware of, and he is
or was very mentally ill, so I hope he

742
00:12:37,750 --> 00:12:37,760
or was very mentally ill, so I hope he
 

743
00:12:37,760 --> 00:12:39,990
or was very mentally ill, so I hope he
gets the help he needs.

744
00:12:39,990 --> 00:12:40,000
gets the help he needs.
 

745
00:12:40,000 --> 00:12:41,990
gets the help he needs.
No, asset use is a mess. And although we

746
00:12:41,990 --> 00:12:42,000
No, asset use is a mess. And although we
 

747
00:12:42,000 --> 00:12:43,590
No, asset use is a mess. And although we
used assets under fair use and under

748
00:12:43,590 --> 00:12:43,600
used assets under fair use and under
 

749
00:12:43,600 --> 00:12:45,590
used assets under fair use and under
transformative work properties, I admit

750
00:12:45,590 --> 00:12:45,600
transformative work properties, I admit
 

751
00:12:45,600 --> 00:12:47,430
transformative work properties, I admit
that some things slid by near the end.

752
00:12:47,430 --> 00:12:47,440
that some things slid by near the end.
 

753
00:12:47,440 --> 00:12:48,949
that some things slid by near the end.
And that's why I took the video down and

754
00:12:48,949 --> 00:12:48,959
And that's why I took the video down and
 

755
00:12:48,959 --> 00:12:50,629
And that's why I took the video down and
why those mirrors are probably next.

756
00:12:50,629 --> 00:12:50,639
why those mirrors are probably next.
 

757
00:12:50,639 --> 00:12:52,069
why those mirrors are probably next.
Sorry for that girl that got mad at me

758
00:12:52,069 --> 00:12:52,079
Sorry for that girl that got mad at me
 

759
00:12:52,079 --> 00:12:54,550
Sorry for that girl that got mad at me
on Tumblr. But transformative law in the

760
00:12:54,550 --> 00:12:54,560
on Tumblr. But transformative law in the
 

761
00:12:54,560 --> 00:12:56,150
on Tumblr. But transformative law in the
United States is especially tricky and

762
00:12:56,150 --> 00:12:56,160
United States is especially tricky and
 

763
00:12:56,160 --> 00:12:57,829
United States is especially tricky and
sites like Tik Tok thrive on reusable

764
00:12:57,829 --> 00:12:57,839
sites like Tik Tok thrive on reusable
 

765
00:12:57,839 --> 00:12:59,829
sites like Tik Tok thrive on reusable
content and because it's based in China

766
00:12:59,829 --> 00:12:59,839
content and because it's based in China
 

767
00:12:59,839 --> 00:13:01,990
content and because it's based in China
is able to get around said laws. Bet you

768
00:13:01,990 --> 00:13:02,000
is able to get around said laws. Bet you
 

769
00:13:02,000 --> 00:13:03,670
is able to get around said laws. Bet you
didn't know that. As well, it is an

770
00:13:03,670 --> 00:13:03,680
didn't know that. As well, it is an
 

771
00:13:03,680 --> 00:13:04,949
didn't know that. As well, it is an
industry standard for actors to

772
00:13:04,949 --> 00:13:04,959
industry standard for actors to
 

773
00:13:04,959 --> 00:13:06,550
industry standard for actors to
sometimes not have full scripts when

774
00:13:06,550 --> 00:13:06,560
sometimes not have full scripts when
 

775
00:13:06,560 --> 00:13:07,990
sometimes not have full scripts when
working. But this shouldn't be a problem

776
00:13:07,990 --> 00:13:08,000
working. But this shouldn't be a problem
 

777
00:13:08,000 --> 00:13:09,509
working. But this shouldn't be a problem
anyway since I don't plan on making any

778
00:13:09,509 --> 00:13:09,519
anyway since I don't plan on making any
 

779
00:13:09,519 --> 00:13:12,069
anyway since I don't plan on making any
more videos like this anytime soon. This

780
00:13:12,069 --> 00:13:12,079
more videos like this anytime soon. This
 

781
00:13:12,079 --> 00:13:14,150
more videos like this anytime soon. This
is a lie.

782
00:13:14,150 --> 00:13:14,160
is a lie.
 

783
00:13:14,160 --> 00:13:15,509
is a lie.
But Saver was just trying to be

784
00:13:15,509 --> 00:13:15,519
But Saver was just trying to be
 

785
00:13:15,519 --> 00:13:17,590
But Saver was just trying to be
responsible. I understand the sentiment,

786
00:13:17,590 --> 00:13:17,600
responsible. I understand the sentiment,
 

787
00:13:17,600 --> 00:13:18,790
responsible. I understand the sentiment,
but something that is never brought up

788
00:13:18,790 --> 00:13:18,800
but something that is never brought up
 

789
00:13:18,800 --> 00:13:20,550
but something that is never brought up
is that it is borderline illegal to make

790
00:13:20,550 --> 00:13:20,560
is that it is borderline illegal to make
 

791
00:13:20,560 --> 00:13:21,910
is that it is borderline illegal to make
someone take a pregnancy test without

792
00:13:21,910 --> 00:13:21,920
someone take a pregnancy test without
 

793
00:13:21,920 --> 00:13:23,430
someone take a pregnancy test without
their consent in the United States,

794
00:13:23,430 --> 00:13:23,440
their consent in the United States,
 

795
00:13:23,440 --> 00:13:25,110
their consent in the United States,
which is where the incident takes place.

796
00:13:25,110 --> 00:13:25,120
which is where the incident takes place.
 

797
00:13:25,120 --> 00:13:26,710
which is where the incident takes place.
Don't believe me? I've linked cases in

798
00:13:26,710 --> 00:13:26,720
Don't believe me? I've linked cases in
 

799
00:13:26,720 --> 00:13:28,949
Don't believe me? I've linked cases in
the description. Forcing someone to take

800
00:13:28,949 --> 00:13:28,959
the description. Forcing someone to take
 

801
00:13:28,959 --> 00:13:30,550
the description. Forcing someone to take
a pregnancy test is not being

802
00:13:30,550 --> 00:13:30,560
a pregnancy test is not being
 

803
00:13:30,560 --> 00:13:32,710
a pregnancy test is not being
responsible. It's reproductive coercion,

804
00:13:32,710 --> 00:13:32,720
responsible. It's reproductive coercion,
 

805
00:13:32,720 --> 00:13:35,269
responsible. It's reproductive coercion,
a violation of privacy and consent. In

806
00:13:35,269 --> 00:13:35,279
a violation of privacy and consent. In
 

807
00:13:35,279 --> 00:13:37,350
a violation of privacy and consent. In
the US, a potential father has no legal

808
00:13:37,350 --> 00:13:37,360
the US, a potential father has no legal
 

809
00:13:37,360 --> 00:13:39,430
the US, a potential father has no legal
right to compel a test or access medical

810
00:13:39,430 --> 00:13:39,440
right to compel a test or access medical
 

811
00:13:39,440 --> 00:13:41,750
right to compel a test or access medical
records. That's the law. Wrap it before

812
00:13:41,750 --> 00:13:41,760
records. That's the law. Wrap it before
 

813
00:13:41,760 --> 00:13:43,990
records. That's the law. Wrap it before
you tap it. Well, what about the

814
00:13:43,990 --> 00:13:44,000
you tap it. Well, what about the
 

815
00:13:44,000 --> 00:13:46,629
you tap it. Well, what about the
voicemails? So, this is going into why,

816
00:13:46,629 --> 00:13:46,639
voicemails? So, this is going into why,
 

817
00:13:46,639 --> 00:13:47,829
voicemails? So, this is going into why,
as much as there are a few people

818
00:13:47,829 --> 00:13:47,839
as much as there are a few people
 

819
00:13:47,839 --> 00:13:49,590
as much as there are a few people
asking, I'm not going to talk to anyone

820
00:13:49,590 --> 00:13:49,600
asking, I'm not going to talk to anyone
 

821
00:13:49,600 --> 00:13:51,110
asking, I'm not going to talk to anyone
about this because I've already been

822
00:13:51,110 --> 00:13:51,120
about this because I've already been
 

823
00:13:51,120 --> 00:13:53,829
about this because I've already been
burned with this whole situation. Now,

824
00:13:53,829 --> 00:13:53,839
burned with this whole situation. Now,
 

825
00:13:53,839 --> 00:13:55,430
burned with this whole situation. Now,
during the immediate aftermath of this

826
00:13:55,430 --> 00:13:55,440
during the immediate aftermath of this
 

827
00:13:55,440 --> 00:13:57,269
during the immediate aftermath of this
video, I was taking interviews to both

828
00:13:57,269 --> 00:13:57,279
video, I was taking interviews to both
 

829
00:13:57,279 --> 00:13:59,030
video, I was taking interviews to both
acknowledge the video was bad, but to

830
00:13:59,030 --> 00:13:59,040
acknowledge the video was bad, but to
 

831
00:13:59,040 --> 00:14:01,110
acknowledge the video was bad, but to
try to direct attention back to the DA

832
00:14:01,110 --> 00:14:01,120
try to direct attention back to the DA
 

833
00:14:01,120 --> 00:14:03,110
try to direct attention back to the DA
Games documentation, but people were

834
00:14:03,110 --> 00:14:03,120
Games documentation, but people were
 

835
00:14:03,120 --> 00:14:04,389
Games documentation, but people were
more concerned with the other side of

836
00:14:04,389 --> 00:14:04,399
more concerned with the other side of
 

837
00:14:04,399 --> 00:14:06,550
more concerned with the other side of
the story. More specifically, this guy

838
00:14:06,550 --> 00:14:06,560
the story. More specifically, this guy
 

839
00:14:06,560 --> 00:14:08,389
the story. More specifically, this guy
named Beckett. Becket was already

840
00:14:08,389 --> 00:14:08,399
named Beckett. Becket was already
 

841
00:14:08,399 --> 00:14:10,310
named Beckett. Becket was already
planning on covering the video. But in

842
00:14:10,310 --> 00:14:10,320
planning on covering the video. But in
 

843
00:14:10,320 --> 00:14:11,990
planning on covering the video. But in
honesty, I wasn't really in a position

844
00:14:11,990 --> 00:14:12,000
honesty, I wasn't really in a position
 

845
00:14:12,000 --> 00:14:13,350
honesty, I wasn't really in a position
at that point to answer any questions,

846
00:14:13,350 --> 00:14:13,360
at that point to answer any questions,
 

847
00:14:13,360 --> 00:14:14,870
at that point to answer any questions,
and I should have advocated for myself a

848
00:14:14,870 --> 00:14:14,880
and I should have advocated for myself a
 

849
00:14:14,880 --> 00:14:17,189
and I should have advocated for myself a
bit better. Regardless, information was

850
00:14:17,189 --> 00:14:17,199
bit better. Regardless, information was
 

851
00:14:17,199 --> 00:14:18,790
bit better. Regardless, information was
coming out, and Becca convinced me that

852
00:14:18,790 --> 00:14:18,800
coming out, and Becca convinced me that
 

853
00:14:18,800 --> 00:14:21,110
coming out, and Becca convinced me that
Emily and Bernie Fanote had manipulated.

854
00:14:21,110 --> 00:14:21,120
Emily and Bernie Fanote had manipulated.
 

855
00:14:21,120 --> 00:14:22,550
Emily and Bernie Fanote had manipulated.
But what I didn't think about more

856
00:14:22,550 --> 00:14:22,560
But what I didn't think about more
 

857
00:14:22,560 --> 00:14:24,629
But what I didn't think about more
critically at the time. Now what was

858
00:14:24,629 --> 00:14:24,639
critically at the time. Now what was
 

859
00:14:24,639 --> 00:14:26,470
critically at the time. Now what was
available is that Saber told him and

860
00:14:26,470 --> 00:14:26,480
available is that Saber told him and
 

861
00:14:26,480 --> 00:14:28,069
available is that Saber told him and
guesses that it was Emily. But that's

862
00:14:28,069 --> 00:14:28,079
guesses that it was Emily. But that's
 

863
00:14:28,079 --> 00:14:29,430
guesses that it was Emily. But that's
not enough information to say without

864
00:14:29,430 --> 00:14:29,440
not enough information to say without
 

865
00:14:29,440 --> 00:14:31,430
not enough information to say without
100% doubt, which we'll get to more in a

866
00:14:31,430 --> 00:14:31,440
100% doubt, which we'll get to more in a
 

867
00:14:31,440 --> 00:14:32,629
100% doubt, which we'll get to more in a
second, but that it's someone is

868
00:14:32,629 --> 00:14:32,639
second, but that it's someone is
 

869
00:14:32,639 --> 00:14:35,350
second, but that it's someone is
innocent or guilty. Still, Becca

870
00:14:35,350 --> 00:14:35,360
innocent or guilty. Still, Becca
 

871
00:14:35,360 --> 00:14:37,030
innocent or guilty. Still, Becca
convinced me that this was fact. But the

872
00:14:37,030 --> 00:14:37,040
convinced me that this was fact. But the
 

873
00:14:37,040 --> 00:14:39,829
convinced me that this was fact. But the
thing is it's not. Then I cried and then

874
00:14:39,829 --> 00:14:39,839
thing is it's not. Then I cried and then
 

875
00:14:39,839 --> 00:14:42,470
thing is it's not. Then I cried and then
I panicked and then made a bad decision

876
00:14:42,470 --> 00:14:42,480
I panicked and then made a bad decision
 

877
00:14:42,480 --> 00:14:44,470
I panicked and then made a bad decision
and then it escalated, but then it was

878
00:14:44,470 --> 00:14:44,480
and then it escalated, but then it was
 

879
00:14:44,480 --> 00:14:46,150
and then it escalated, but then it was
talked about. And this is why I wanted

880
00:14:46,150 --> 00:14:46,160
talked about. And this is why I wanted
 

881
00:14:46,160 --> 00:14:47,829
talked about. And this is why I wanted
to take space from all of this. I wanted

882
00:14:47,829 --> 00:14:47,839
to take space from all of this. I wanted
 

883
00:14:47,839 --> 00:14:49,189
to take space from all of this. I wanted
a chance to sit with everything myself

884
00:14:49,189 --> 00:14:49,199
a chance to sit with everything myself
 

885
00:14:49,199 --> 00:14:51,110
a chance to sit with everything myself
without being pulled in different ways.

886
00:14:51,110 --> 00:14:51,120
without being pulled in different ways.
 

887
00:14:51,120 --> 00:14:52,629
without being pulled in different ways.
But to cope convincing people and acting

888
00:14:52,629 --> 00:14:52,639
But to cope convincing people and acting
 

889
00:14:52,639 --> 00:14:53,990
But to cope convincing people and acting
that Emily's reputation in the Skype

890
00:14:53,990 --> 00:14:54,000
that Emily's reputation in the Skype
 

891
00:14:54,000 --> 00:14:55,910
that Emily's reputation in the Skype
logs are finite proof is incredibly

892
00:14:55,910 --> 00:14:55,920
logs are finite proof is incredibly
 

893
00:14:55,920 --> 00:14:58,310
logs are finite proof is incredibly
dangerous. It misleads people to what

894
00:14:58,310 --> 00:14:58,320
dangerous. It misleads people to what
 

895
00:14:58,320 --> 00:15:00,470
dangerous. It misleads people to what
evidence actually is. It enforces myths

896
00:15:00,470 --> 00:15:00,480
evidence actually is. It enforces myths
 

897
00:15:00,480 --> 00:15:01,590
evidence actually is. It enforces myths
about trauma and abuse.

898
00:15:01,590 --> 00:15:01,600
about trauma and abuse.
 

899
00:15:01,600 --> 00:15:03,750
about trauma and abuse.
>> Bottom line, trying to convince people

900
00:15:03,750 --> 00:15:03,760
>> Bottom line, trying to convince people
 

901
00:15:03,760 --> 00:15:06,550
>> Bottom line, trying to convince people
that those logs aren't enough is just

902
00:15:06,550 --> 00:15:06,560
that those logs aren't enough is just
 

903
00:15:06,560 --> 00:15:09,509
that those logs aren't enough is just
ethically shaky. It's actively harmful.

904
00:15:09,509 --> 00:15:09,519
ethically shaky. It's actively harmful.
 

905
00:15:09,519 --> 00:15:11,990
ethically shaky. It's actively harmful.
It spreads misinformation, reinforces a

906
00:15:11,990 --> 00:15:12,000
It spreads misinformation, reinforces a
 

907
00:15:12,000 --> 00:15:14,310
It spreads misinformation, reinforces a
dangerous myth, and manipulates people

908
00:15:14,310 --> 00:15:14,320
dangerous myth, and manipulates people
 

909
00:15:14,320 --> 00:15:16,230
dangerous myth, and manipulates people
into simplistic conclusions about deeply

910
00:15:16,230 --> 00:15:16,240
into simplistic conclusions about deeply
 

911
00:15:16,240 --> 00:15:18,230
into simplistic conclusions about deeply
complex events. If you want to argue

912
00:15:18,230 --> 00:15:18,240
complex events. If you want to argue
 

913
00:15:18,240 --> 00:15:20,870
complex events. If you want to argue
context, fine. If you want to say this

914
00:15:20,870 --> 00:15:20,880
context, fine. If you want to say this
 

915
00:15:20,880 --> 00:15:23,110
context, fine. If you want to say this
raises questions, sure. But the second

916
00:15:23,110 --> 00:15:23,120
raises questions, sure. But the second
 

917
00:15:23,120 --> 00:15:24,949
raises questions, sure. But the second
someone calls it a smoking gun, then

918
00:15:24,949 --> 00:15:24,959
someone calls it a smoking gun, then
 

919
00:15:24,959 --> 00:15:26,790
someone calls it a smoking gun, then
we've left the realm of good faith

920
00:15:26,790 --> 00:15:26,800
we've left the realm of good faith
 

921
00:15:26,800 --> 00:15:28,470
we've left the realm of good faith
discussions.

922
00:15:28,470 --> 00:15:28,480
discussions.
 

923
00:15:28,480 --> 00:15:29,750
discussions.
Uh, cut this part out. Cut this part

924
00:15:29,750 --> 00:15:29,760
Uh, cut this part out. Cut this part
 

925
00:15:29,760 --> 00:15:32,230
Uh, cut this part out. Cut this part
out. Cut this part out. This is for the

926
00:15:32,230 --> 00:15:32,240
out. Cut this part out. This is for the
 

927
00:15:32,240 --> 00:15:33,350
out. Cut this part out. This is for the
one under it. I'm guessing you want

928
00:15:33,350 --> 00:15:33,360
one under it. I'm guessing you want
 

929
00:15:33,360 --> 00:15:36,550
one under it. I'm guessing you want
these spaced. I don't know. Days never

930
00:15:36,550 --> 00:15:36,560
these spaced. I don't know. Days never
 

931
00:15:36,560 --> 00:15:40,069
these spaced. I don't know. Days never
finished. mess has got me working. And

932
00:15:40,069 --> 00:15:40,079
finished. mess has got me working. And
 

933
00:15:40,079 --> 00:15:41,590
finished. mess has got me working. And
dude, don't tell me you're not being

934
00:15:41,590 --> 00:15:41,600
dude, don't tell me you're not being
 

935
00:15:41,600 --> 00:15:42,710
dude, don't tell me you're not being
biased if you were literally

936
00:15:42,710 --> 00:15:42,720
biased if you were literally
 

937
00:15:42,720 --> 00:15:43,990
biased if you were literally
interviewing former friends of mine

938
00:15:43,990 --> 00:15:44,000
interviewing former friends of mine
 

939
00:15:44,000 --> 00:15:45,590
interviewing former friends of mine
about me without giving me a chance to

940
00:15:45,590 --> 00:15:45,600
about me without giving me a chance to
 

941
00:15:45,600 --> 00:15:46,949
about me without giving me a chance to
comment on their accounts or even be

942
00:15:46,949 --> 00:15:46,959
comment on their accounts or even be
 

943
00:15:46,959 --> 00:15:49,350
comment on their accounts or even be
aware that this is happening. What does

944
00:15:49,350 --> 00:15:49,360
aware that this is happening. What does
 

945
00:15:49,360 --> 00:15:50,629
aware that this is happening. What does
this have to do with anything discussed

946
00:15:50,629 --> 00:15:50,639
this have to do with anything discussed
 

947
00:15:50,639 --> 00:15:52,230
this have to do with anything discussed
in the video? Or is this just there to

948
00:15:52,230 --> 00:15:52,240
in the video? Or is this just there to
 

949
00:15:52,240 --> 00:15:54,949
in the video? Or is this just there to
damn my character a bit? This is classic

950
00:15:54,949 --> 00:15:54,959
damn my character a bit? This is classic
 

951
00:15:54,959 --> 00:15:57,990
damn my character a bit? This is classic
defensive psychology. It's classic

952
00:15:57,990 --> 00:15:58,000
defensive psychology. It's classic
 

953
00:15:58,000 --> 00:16:02,150
defensive psychology. It's classic
deflection psychology. She's lying means

954
00:16:02,150 --> 00:16:02,160
deflection psychology. She's lying means
 

955
00:16:02,160 --> 00:16:04,389
deflection psychology. She's lying means
we don't have to wrestle with the facts.

956
00:16:04,389 --> 00:16:04,399
we don't have to wrestle with the facts.
 

957
00:16:04,399 --> 00:16:06,870
we don't have to wrestle with the facts.
She's too immature to understand means

958
00:16:06,870 --> 00:16:06,880
She's too immature to understand means
 

959
00:16:06,880 --> 00:16:09,189
She's too immature to understand means
we don't have to hear her perspective.

960
00:16:09,189 --> 00:16:09,199
we don't have to hear her perspective.
 

961
00:16:09,199 --> 00:16:11,749
we don't have to hear her perspective.
She's doing this for attention. Means we

962
00:16:11,749 --> 00:16:11,759
She's doing this for attention. Means we
 

963
00:16:11,759 --> 00:16:14,389
She's doing this for attention. Means we
don't have to question the system. It's

964
00:16:14,389 --> 00:16:14,399
don't have to question the system. It's
 

965
00:16:14,399 --> 00:16:15,910
don't have to question the system. It's
not like they know something bad about

966
00:16:15,910 --> 00:16:15,920
not like they know something bad about
 

967
00:16:15,920 --> 00:16:17,749
not like they know something bad about
you. It's that they need to make people

968
00:16:17,749 --> 00:16:17,759
you. It's that they need to make people
 

969
00:16:17,759 --> 00:16:19,430
you. It's that they need to make people
believe something bad about you or else

970
00:16:19,430 --> 00:16:19,440
believe something bad about you or else
 

971
00:16:19,440 --> 00:16:21,030
believe something bad about you or else
your points still stand.

972
00:16:21,030 --> 00:16:21,040
your points still stand.
 

973
00:16:21,040 --> 00:16:22,870
your points still stand.
>> And dude, I criticized your approach and

974
00:16:22,870 --> 00:16:22,880
>> And dude, I criticized your approach and
 

975
00:16:22,880 --> 00:16:24,230
>> And dude, I criticized your approach and
your framing and you threw a name

976
00:16:24,230 --> 00:16:24,240
your framing and you threw a name
 

977
00:16:24,240 --> 00:16:26,310
your framing and you threw a name
calling tantrum even in your title. Your

978
00:16:26,310 --> 00:16:26,320
calling tantrum even in your title. Your
 

979
00:16:26,320 --> 00:16:28,629
calling tantrum even in your title. Your
title response screams that and you want

980
00:16:28,629 --> 00:16:28,639
title response screams that and you want
 

981
00:16:28,639 --> 00:16:30,389
title response screams that and you want
to be taken seriously. This looks like

982
00:16:30,389 --> 00:16:30,399
to be taken seriously. This looks like
 

983
00:16:30,399 --> 00:16:32,310
to be taken seriously. This looks like
textbook projection, my guy. And for the

984
00:16:32,310 --> 00:16:32,320
textbook projection, my guy. And for the
 

985
00:16:32,320 --> 00:16:33,670
textbook projection, my guy. And for the
record, Henry was not present for the

986
00:16:33,670 --> 00:16:33,680
record, Henry was not present for the
 

987
00:16:33,680 --> 00:16:35,350
record, Henry was not present for the
Rachel Bloom thing. And that's not what

988
00:16:35,350 --> 00:16:35,360
Rachel Bloom thing. And that's not what
 

989
00:16:35,360 --> 00:16:37,269
Rachel Bloom thing. And that's not what
directly happened. Henry was not there

990
00:16:37,269 --> 00:16:37,279
directly happened. Henry was not there
 

991
00:16:37,279 --> 00:16:39,749
directly happened. Henry was not there
for the con he mentioned with Jen Blake.

992
00:16:39,749 --> 00:16:39,759
for the con he mentioned with Jen Blake.
 

993
00:16:39,759 --> 00:16:41,110
for the con he mentioned with Jen Blake.
And this was something between me and

994
00:16:41,110 --> 00:16:41,120
And this was something between me and
 

995
00:16:41,120 --> 00:16:43,189
And this was something between me and
her that she previously approved. If she

996
00:16:43,189 --> 00:16:43,199
her that she previously approved. If she
 

997
00:16:43,199 --> 00:16:45,110
her that she previously approved. If she
had any issue, she could have come to

998
00:16:45,110 --> 00:16:45,120
had any issue, she could have come to
 

999
00:16:45,120 --> 00:16:47,110
had any issue, she could have come to
talk to me. My issues with race were not

1000
00:16:47,110 --> 00:16:47,120
talk to me. My issues with race were not
 

1001
00:16:47,120 --> 00:16:49,269
talk to me. My issues with race were not
frankly involving Casey. I did not just

1002
00:16:49,269 --> 00:16:49,279
frankly involving Casey. I did not just
 

1003
00:16:49,279 --> 00:16:51,189
frankly involving Casey. I did not just
sit there and curse him out. And most

1004
00:16:51,189 --> 00:16:51,199
sit there and curse him out. And most
 

1005
00:16:51,199 --> 00:16:53,189
sit there and curse him out. And most
importantly, whatever stories Casey was

1006
00:16:53,189 --> 00:16:53,199
importantly, whatever stories Casey was
 

1007
00:16:53,199 --> 00:16:54,790
importantly, whatever stories Casey was
being told, she should have come to talk

1008
00:16:54,790 --> 00:16:54,800
being told, she should have come to talk
 

1009
00:16:54,800 --> 00:16:56,870
being told, she should have come to talk
to me about them directly. Withholding

1010
00:16:56,870 --> 00:16:56,880
to me about them directly. Withholding
 

1011
00:16:56,880 --> 00:16:58,389
to me about them directly. Withholding
truth because you think someone can't

1012
00:16:58,389 --> 00:16:58,399
truth because you think someone can't
 

1013
00:16:58,399 --> 00:17:00,629
truth because you think someone can't
handle it isn't kindness at all. It's

1014
00:17:00,629 --> 00:17:00,639
handle it isn't kindness at all. It's
 

1015
00:17:00,639 --> 00:17:02,790
handle it isn't kindness at all. It's
controlled disguise as concern. When you

1016
00:17:02,790 --> 00:17:02,800
controlled disguise as concern. When you
 

1017
00:17:02,800 --> 00:17:04,870
controlled disguise as concern. When you
decide for someone else that they can't

1018
00:17:04,870 --> 00:17:04,880
decide for someone else that they can't
 

1019
00:17:04,880 --> 00:17:06,470
decide for someone else that they can't
handle certain information, what you're

1020
00:17:06,470 --> 00:17:06,480
handle certain information, what you're
 

1021
00:17:06,480 --> 00:17:08,710
handle certain information, what you're
really saying is, "I don't trust you to

1022
00:17:08,710 --> 00:17:08,720
really saying is, "I don't trust you to
 

1023
00:17:08,720 --> 00:17:10,470
really saying is, "I don't trust you to
make decisions about your own life."

1024
00:17:10,470 --> 00:17:10,480
make decisions about your own life."
 

1025
00:17:10,480 --> 00:17:11,829
make decisions about your own life."
There's a big difference between saying,

1026
00:17:11,829 --> 00:17:11,839
There's a big difference between saying,
 

1027
00:17:11,839 --> 00:17:13,429
There's a big difference between saying,
"I'm scared this will hurt you," and

1028
00:17:13,429 --> 00:17:13,439
"I'm scared this will hurt you," and
 

1029
00:17:13,439 --> 00:17:14,870
"I'm scared this will hurt you," and
saying, "You're too immature to know

1030
00:17:14,870 --> 00:17:14,880
saying, "You're too immature to know
 

1031
00:17:14,880 --> 00:17:16,470
saying, "You're too immature to know
this." The first is honest

1032
00:17:16,470 --> 00:17:16,480
this." The first is honest
 

1033
00:17:16,480 --> 00:17:19,029
this." The first is honest
vulnerability. The second is pit

1034
00:17:19,029 --> 00:17:19,039
vulnerability. The second is pit
 

1035
00:17:19,039 --> 00:17:21,110
vulnerability. The second is pit
ballistic. If you're deciding what I can

1036
00:17:21,110 --> 00:17:21,120
ballistic. If you're deciding what I can
 

1037
00:17:21,120 --> 00:17:22,710
ballistic. If you're deciding what I can
or can't handle without asking me,

1038
00:17:22,710 --> 00:17:22,720
or can't handle without asking me,
 

1039
00:17:22,720 --> 00:17:24,390
or can't handle without asking me,
you're not protecting me. You're

1040
00:17:24,390 --> 00:17:24,400
you're not protecting me. You're
 

1041
00:17:24,400 --> 00:17:27,909
you're not protecting me. You're
patronizing me. Number three, it shifts

1042
00:17:27,909 --> 00:17:27,919
patronizing me. Number three, it shifts
 

1043
00:17:27,919 --> 00:17:30,150
patronizing me. Number three, it shifts
the power dynamic and not in a healthy

1044
00:17:30,150 --> 00:17:30,160
the power dynamic and not in a healthy
 

1045
00:17:30,160 --> 00:17:33,029
the power dynamic and not in a healthy
way. Real friendship is built on mutual

1046
00:17:33,029 --> 00:17:33,039
way. Real friendship is built on mutual
 

1047
00:17:33,039 --> 00:17:35,110
way. Real friendship is built on mutual
trust and respect.

1048
00:17:35,110 --> 00:17:35,120
trust and respect.
 

1049
00:17:35,120 --> 00:17:37,590
trust and respect.
But with holing information flips that

1050
00:17:37,590 --> 00:17:37,600
But with holing information flips that
 

1051
00:17:37,600 --> 00:17:39,750
But with holing information flips that
balance, suddenly one person is a

1052
00:17:39,750 --> 00:17:39,760
balance, suddenly one person is a
 

1053
00:17:39,760 --> 00:17:41,909
balance, suddenly one person is a
gatekeeper of reality and the other is a

1054
00:17:41,909 --> 00:17:41,919
gatekeeper of reality and the other is a
 

1055
00:17:41,919 --> 00:17:43,430
gatekeeper of reality and the other is a
child that can't be trusted with the

1056
00:17:43,430 --> 00:17:43,440
child that can't be trusted with the
 

1057
00:17:43,440 --> 00:17:45,750
child that can't be trusted with the
truth. That power imbalance corrods the

1058
00:17:45,750 --> 00:17:45,760
truth. That power imbalance corrods the
 

1059
00:17:45,760 --> 00:17:47,750
truth. That power imbalance corrods the
foundation of a relationship. Because if

1060
00:17:47,750 --> 00:17:47,760
foundation of a relationship. Because if
 

1061
00:17:47,760 --> 00:17:49,430
foundation of a relationship. Because if
one person's always deciding what the

1062
00:17:49,430 --> 00:17:49,440
one person's always deciding what the
 

1063
00:17:49,440 --> 00:17:51,830
one person's always deciding what the
other can and should know, then that's

1064
00:17:51,830 --> 00:17:51,840
other can and should know, then that's
 

1065
00:17:51,840 --> 00:17:53,430
other can and should know, then that's
not really friends anymore. It's

1066
00:17:53,430 --> 00:17:53,440
not really friends anymore. It's
 

1067
00:17:53,440 --> 00:17:55,350
not really friends anymore. It's
managing them. And when people feel

1068
00:17:55,350 --> 00:17:55,360
managing them. And when people feel
 

1069
00:17:55,360 --> 00:17:57,350
managing them. And when people feel
that, even if they don't know why, they

1070
00:17:57,350 --> 00:17:57,360
that, even if they don't know why, they
 

1071
00:17:57,360 --> 00:17:59,669
that, even if they don't know why, they
feel betrayed later. Number four,

1072
00:17:59,669 --> 00:17:59,679
feel betrayed later. Number four,
 

1073
00:17:59,679 --> 00:18:01,350
feel betrayed later. Number four,
protecting someone from discomfort

1074
00:18:01,350 --> 00:18:01,360
protecting someone from discomfort
 

1075
00:18:01,360 --> 00:18:03,669
protecting someone from discomfort
actually stunts their growth. When

1076
00:18:03,669 --> 00:18:03,679
actually stunts their growth. When
 

1077
00:18:03,679 --> 00:18:05,029
actually stunts their growth. When
someone withholds something because

1078
00:18:05,029 --> 00:18:05,039
someone withholds something because
 

1079
00:18:05,039 --> 00:18:06,710
someone withholds something because
you're not ready for it, they're often

1080
00:18:06,710 --> 00:18:06,720
you're not ready for it, they're often
 

1081
00:18:06,720 --> 00:18:09,029
you're not ready for it, they're often
thinking in short term. I don't want to

1082
00:18:09,029 --> 00:18:09,039
thinking in short term. I don't want to
 

1083
00:18:09,039 --> 00:18:11,990
thinking in short term. I don't want to
upset them now. But discomfort isn't the

1084
00:18:11,990 --> 00:18:12,000
upset them now. But discomfort isn't the
 

1085
00:18:12,000 --> 00:18:13,830
upset them now. But discomfort isn't the
enemy. It's how people develop

1086
00:18:13,830 --> 00:18:13,840
enemy. It's how people develop
 

1087
00:18:13,840 --> 00:18:16,150
enemy. It's how people develop
resilience, emotional intelligence, and

1088
00:18:16,150 --> 00:18:16,160
resilience, emotional intelligence, and
 

1089
00:18:16,160 --> 00:18:17,669
resilience, emotional intelligence, and
wisdom.

1090
00:18:17,669 --> 00:18:17,679
wisdom.
 

1091
00:18:17,679 --> 00:18:19,990
wisdom.
If you shel someone from reality, they

1092
00:18:19,990 --> 00:18:20,000
If you shel someone from reality, they
 

1093
00:18:20,000 --> 00:18:21,510
If you shel someone from reality, they
will never get the chance to build those

1094
00:18:21,510 --> 00:18:21,520
will never get the chance to build those
 

1095
00:18:21,520 --> 00:18:23,190
will never get the chance to build those
scales. You're not sparring them from

1096
00:18:23,190 --> 00:18:23,200
scales. You're not sparring them from
 

1097
00:18:23,200 --> 00:18:25,029
scales. You're not sparring them from
pain. You're spending their ability to

1098
00:18:25,029 --> 00:18:25,039
pain. You're spending their ability to
 

1099
00:18:25,039 --> 00:18:27,830
pain. You're spending their ability to
grow. Another strong line. Choosing

1100
00:18:27,830 --> 00:18:27,840
grow. Another strong line. Choosing
 

1101
00:18:27,840 --> 00:18:29,350
grow. Another strong line. Choosing
between silence because you think I'm

1102
00:18:29,350 --> 00:18:29,360
between silence because you think I'm
 

1103
00:18:29,360 --> 00:18:31,510
between silence because you think I'm
too fragile isn't kindness. It's rubbing

1104
00:18:31,510 --> 00:18:31,520
too fragile isn't kindness. It's rubbing
 

1105
00:18:31,520 --> 00:18:34,230
too fragile isn't kindness. It's rubbing
me that chance to grow from the truth.

1106
00:18:34,230 --> 00:18:34,240
me that chance to grow from the truth.
 

1107
00:18:34,240 --> 00:18:37,190
me that chance to grow from the truth.
Number five. It's often about your

1108
00:18:37,190 --> 00:18:37,200
Number five. It's often about your
 

1109
00:18:37,200 --> 00:18:40,310
Number five. It's often about your
discomfort, not theirs. This is the

1110
00:18:40,310 --> 00:18:40,320
discomfort, not theirs. This is the
 

1111
00:18:40,320 --> 00:18:42,870
discomfort, not theirs. This is the
uncomfortable truth. Most people who say

1112
00:18:42,870 --> 00:18:42,880
uncomfortable truth. Most people who say
 

1113
00:18:42,880 --> 00:18:44,070
uncomfortable truth. Most people who say
they're withholding information to

1114
00:18:44,070 --> 00:18:44,080
they're withholding information to
 

1115
00:18:44,080 --> 00:18:45,990
they're withholding information to
protect someone are really trying to

1116
00:18:45,990 --> 00:18:46,000
protect someone are really trying to
 

1117
00:18:46,000 --> 00:18:48,150
protect someone are really trying to
avoid their own guilt, fear, or

1118
00:18:48,150 --> 00:18:48,160
avoid their own guilt, fear, or
 

1119
00:18:48,160 --> 00:18:50,549
avoid their own guilt, fear, or
awkwardness. They're not protecting the

1120
00:18:50,549 --> 00:18:50,559
awkwardness. They're not protecting the
 

1121
00:18:50,559 --> 00:18:52,310
awkwardness. They're not protecting the
friend. They're protecting themselves

1122
00:18:52,310 --> 00:18:52,320
friend. They're protecting themselves
 

1123
00:18:52,320 --> 00:18:54,630
friend. They're protecting themselves
from the fallout of honesty and that's

1124
00:18:54,630 --> 00:18:54,640
from the fallout of honesty and that's
 

1125
00:18:54,640 --> 00:18:56,710
from the fallout of honesty and that's
not worth naming because if the

1126
00:18:56,710 --> 00:18:56,720
not worth naming because if the
 

1127
00:18:56,720 --> 00:18:58,549
not worth naming because if the
motivation is selfish even

1128
00:18:58,549 --> 00:18:58,559
motivation is selfish even
 

1129
00:18:58,559 --> 00:19:00,870
motivation is selfish even
subconsciously it stops being a moral

1130
00:19:00,870 --> 00:19:00,880
subconsciously it stops being a moral
 

1131
00:19:00,880 --> 00:19:02,789
subconsciously it stops being a moral
choice and starts being a control

1132
00:19:02,789 --> 00:19:02,799
choice and starts being a control
 

1133
00:19:02,799 --> 00:19:05,990
choice and starts being a control
tactic. The bottom line withholding

1134
00:19:05,990 --> 00:19:06,000
tactic. The bottom line withholding
 

1135
00:19:06,000 --> 00:19:07,270
tactic. The bottom line withholding
important truth because you think

1136
00:19:07,270 --> 00:19:07,280
important truth because you think
 

1137
00:19:07,280 --> 00:19:08,390
important truth because you think
someone can't handle it isn't

1138
00:19:08,390 --> 00:19:08,400
someone can't handle it isn't
 

1139
00:19:08,400 --> 00:19:10,549
someone can't handle it isn't
compassion. It's condescension. It

1140
00:19:10,549 --> 00:19:10,559
compassion. It's condescension. It
 

1141
00:19:10,559 --> 00:19:13,270
compassion. It's condescension. It
denies them the agency infantilizes them

1142
00:19:13,270 --> 00:19:13,280
denies them the agency infantilizes them
 

1143
00:19:13,280 --> 00:19:15,350
denies them the agency infantilizes them
and often protects you more than it

1144
00:19:15,350 --> 00:19:15,360
and often protects you more than it
 

1145
00:19:15,360 --> 00:19:18,230
and often protects you more than it
protects them. True respect means

1146
00:19:18,230 --> 00:19:18,240
protects them. True respect means
 

1147
00:19:18,240 --> 00:19:19,830
protects them. True respect means
trusting people with the truth and

1148
00:19:19,830 --> 00:19:19,840
trusting people with the truth and
 

1149
00:19:19,840 --> 00:19:21,750
trusting people with the truth and
supporting them through the fallout, not

1150
00:19:21,750 --> 00:19:21,760
supporting them through the fallout, not
 

1151
00:19:21,760 --> 00:19:23,669
supporting them through the fallout, not
deciding on their behalf when they're

1152
00:19:23,669 --> 00:19:23,679
deciding on their behalf when they're
 

1153
00:19:23,679 --> 00:19:24,870
deciding on their behalf when they're
too weak to know it.

1154
00:19:24,870 --> 00:19:24,880
too weak to know it.
 

1155
00:19:24,880 --> 00:19:26,710
too weak to know it.
>> There was also an alleged incident that

1156
00:19:26,710 --> 00:19:26,720
>> There was also an alleged incident that
 

1157
00:19:26,720 --> 00:19:29,029
>> There was also an alleged incident that
Beckett, so clear in his convictions,

1158
00:19:29,029 --> 00:19:29,039
Beckett, so clear in his convictions,
 

1159
00:19:29,039 --> 00:19:31,350
Beckett, so clear in his convictions,
tried to imply Emily, via a private

1160
00:19:31,350 --> 00:19:31,360
tried to imply Emily, via a private
 

1161
00:19:31,360 --> 00:19:33,110
tried to imply Emily, via a private
discussion that her childhood trauma was

1162
00:19:33,110 --> 00:19:33,120
discussion that her childhood trauma was
 

1163
00:19:33,120 --> 00:19:35,270
discussion that her childhood trauma was
not valid because she wasn't vocal about

1164
00:19:35,270 --> 00:19:35,280
not valid because she wasn't vocal about
 

1165
00:19:35,280 --> 00:19:37,909
not valid because she wasn't vocal about
it. Like, excuse me, are you so

1166
00:19:37,909 --> 00:19:37,919
it. Like, excuse me, are you so
 

1167
00:19:37,919 --> 00:19:39,669
it. Like, excuse me, are you so
convinced your boy made no mistakes at

1168
00:19:39,669 --> 00:19:39,679
convinced your boy made no mistakes at
 

1169
00:19:39,679 --> 00:19:41,669
convinced your boy made no mistakes at
all in this case that you think you have

1170
00:19:41,669 --> 00:19:41,679
all in this case that you think you have
 

1171
00:19:41,679 --> 00:19:43,270
all in this case that you think you have
the right to dictate someone else's

1172
00:19:43,270 --> 00:19:43,280
the right to dictate someone else's
 

1173
00:19:43,280 --> 00:19:45,990
the right to dictate someone else's
traumatic experiences as a child? Now,

1174
00:19:45,990 --> 00:19:46,000
traumatic experiences as a child? Now,
 

1175
00:19:46,000 --> 00:19:48,150
traumatic experiences as a child? Now,
regardless of how you view Emily, this

1176
00:19:48,150 --> 00:19:48,160
regardless of how you view Emily, this
 

1177
00:19:48,160 --> 00:19:51,190
regardless of how you view Emily, this
isn't okay. I think this moment for me

1178
00:19:51,190 --> 00:19:51,200
isn't okay. I think this moment for me
 

1179
00:19:51,200 --> 00:19:53,270
isn't okay. I think this moment for me
highlighted the desperation here. This,

1180
00:19:53,270 --> 00:19:53,280
highlighted the desperation here. This,
 

1181
00:19:53,280 --> 00:19:56,150
highlighted the desperation here. This,
to me, seemed like an unhealthy, aching

1182
00:19:56,150 --> 00:19:56,160
to me, seemed like an unhealthy, aching
 

1183
00:19:56,160 --> 00:19:58,630
to me, seemed like an unhealthy, aching
need to dismiss these accusations that

1184
00:19:58,630 --> 00:19:58,640
need to dismiss these accusations that
 

1185
00:19:58,640 --> 00:20:00,549
need to dismiss these accusations that
someone will act as an unethical

1186
00:20:00,549 --> 00:20:00,559
someone will act as an unethical
 

1187
00:20:00,559 --> 00:20:02,470
someone will act as an unethical
authority to someone else's lived human

1188
00:20:02,470 --> 00:20:02,480
authority to someone else's lived human
 

1189
00:20:02,480 --> 00:20:05,350
authority to someone else's lived human
experiences. That's not okay. No one

1190
00:20:05,350 --> 00:20:05,360
experiences. That's not okay. No one
 

1191
00:20:05,360 --> 00:20:06,870
experiences. That's not okay. No one
should be questioning other people's

1192
00:20:06,870 --> 00:20:06,880
should be questioning other people's
 

1193
00:20:06,880 --> 00:20:08,310
should be questioning other people's
experiences that they were not there

1194
00:20:08,310 --> 00:20:08,320
experiences that they were not there
 

1195
00:20:08,320 --> 00:20:10,789
experiences that they were not there
for. Period. Like, why are you so

1196
00:20:10,789 --> 00:20:10,799
for. Period. Like, why are you so
 

1197
00:20:10,799 --> 00:20:12,070
for. Period. Like, why are you so
desperate to present this story as

1198
00:20:12,070 --> 00:20:12,080
desperate to present this story as
 

1199
00:20:12,080 --> 00:20:14,230
desperate to present this story as
objective fact when that's not what is

1200
00:20:14,230 --> 00:20:14,240
objective fact when that's not what is
 

1201
00:20:14,240 --> 00:20:16,390
objective fact when that's not what is
happening? Trust me, bro. Look,

1202
00:20:16,390 --> 00:20:16,400
happening? Trust me, bro. Look,
 

1203
00:20:16,400 --> 00:20:18,230
happening? Trust me, bro. Look,
something to keep in mind is that no one

1204
00:20:18,230 --> 00:20:18,240
something to keep in mind is that no one
 

1205
00:20:18,240 --> 00:20:20,470
something to keep in mind is that no one
in this conversation is a cop. No one,

1206
00:20:20,470 --> 00:20:20,480
in this conversation is a cop. No one,
 

1207
00:20:20,480 --> 00:20:21,830
in this conversation is a cop. No one,
to my knowledge, is a mental health

1208
00:20:21,830 --> 00:20:21,840
to my knowledge, is a mental health
 

1209
00:20:21,840 --> 00:20:24,950
to my knowledge, is a mental health
expert, including me. My original point

1210
00:20:24,950 --> 00:20:24,960
expert, including me. My original point
 

1211
00:20:24,960 --> 00:20:26,390
expert, including me. My original point
was just to consider both sides of the

1212
00:20:26,390 --> 00:20:26,400
was just to consider both sides of the
 

1213
00:20:26,400 --> 00:20:28,549
was just to consider both sides of the
story with how the perfect victim myth

1214
00:20:28,549 --> 00:20:28,559
story with how the perfect victim myth
 

1215
00:20:28,559 --> 00:20:30,230
story with how the perfect victim myth
and trauma memory work. There's an

1216
00:20:30,230 --> 00:20:30,240
and trauma memory work. There's an
 

1217
00:20:30,240 --> 00:20:31,750
and trauma memory work. There's an
argument to be made that this is what

1218
00:20:31,750 --> 00:20:31,760
argument to be made that this is what
 

1219
00:20:31,760 --> 00:20:33,909
argument to be made that this is what
the inconsistencies boil down to. Hell,

1220
00:20:33,909 --> 00:20:33,919
the inconsistencies boil down to. Hell,
 

1221
00:20:33,919 --> 00:20:35,750
the inconsistencies boil down to. Hell,
to give the benefit of the doubt, that

1222
00:20:35,750 --> 00:20:35,760
to give the benefit of the doubt, that
 

1223
00:20:35,760 --> 00:20:37,110
to give the benefit of the doubt, that
might be what's happening to Saber a

1224
00:20:37,110 --> 00:20:37,120
might be what's happening to Saber a
 

1225
00:20:37,120 --> 00:20:39,190
might be what's happening to Saber a
bit. My point is that we can never know.

1226
00:20:39,190 --> 00:20:39,200
bit. My point is that we can never know.
 

1227
00:20:39,200 --> 00:20:40,870
bit. My point is that we can never know.
I was never in the room. Neither were

1228
00:20:40,870 --> 00:20:40,880
I was never in the room. Neither were
 

1229
00:20:40,880 --> 00:20:43,190
I was never in the room. Neither were
you, I assume. But when we keep these

1230
00:20:43,190 --> 00:20:43,200
you, I assume. But when we keep these
 

1231
00:20:43,200 --> 00:20:44,950
you, I assume. But when we keep these
aspects in mind, there's no clear-cut

1232
00:20:44,950 --> 00:20:44,960
aspects in mind, there's no clear-cut
 

1233
00:20:44,960 --> 00:20:47,190
aspects in mind, there's no clear-cut
answer to what situation entailed, and I

1234
00:20:47,190 --> 00:20:47,200
answer to what situation entailed, and I
 

1235
00:20:47,200 --> 00:20:48,710
answer to what situation entailed, and I
should have separated myself from that

1236
00:20:48,710 --> 00:20:48,720
should have separated myself from that
 

1237
00:20:48,720 --> 00:20:50,310
should have separated myself from that
whole conversation. So, the DA games

1238
00:20:50,310 --> 00:20:50,320
whole conversation. So, the DA games
 

1239
00:20:50,320 --> 00:20:52,789
whole conversation. So, the DA games
documentation could stand on its own.

1240
00:20:52,789 --> 00:20:52,799
documentation could stand on its own.
 

1241
00:20:52,799 --> 00:20:54,549
documentation could stand on its own.
Now, the perfect victim myth is about

1242
00:20:54,549 --> 00:20:54,559
Now, the perfect victim myth is about
 

1243
00:20:54,559 --> 00:20:56,310
Now, the perfect victim myth is about
using an accuser's reputation to dismiss

1244
00:20:56,310 --> 00:20:56,320
using an accuser's reputation to dismiss
 

1245
00:20:56,320 --> 00:20:57,909
using an accuser's reputation to dismiss
the validity of their claims and to

1246
00:20:57,909 --> 00:20:57,919
the validity of their claims and to
 

1247
00:20:57,919 --> 00:20:59,909
the validity of their claims and to
question if they are telling the truth.

1248
00:20:59,909 --> 00:20:59,919
question if they are telling the truth.
 

1249
00:20:59,919 --> 00:21:02,149
question if they are telling the truth.
This is a real psychological thing, not

1250
00:21:02,149 --> 00:21:02,159
This is a real psychological thing, not
 

1251
00:21:02,159 --> 00:21:04,310
This is a real psychological thing, not
something I made up. Whether you believe

1252
00:21:04,310 --> 00:21:04,320
something I made up. Whether you believe
 

1253
00:21:04,320 --> 00:21:06,070
something I made up. Whether you believe
Emily or not, no one can deny that

1254
00:21:06,070 --> 00:21:06,080
Emily or not, no one can deny that
 

1255
00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:07,669
Emily or not, no one can deny that
Emily's past history is affecting how

1256
00:21:07,669 --> 00:21:07,679
Emily's past history is affecting how
 

1257
00:21:07,679 --> 00:21:10,390
Emily's past history is affecting how
this story is being told. The perfect

1258
00:21:10,390 --> 00:21:10,400
this story is being told. The perfect
 

1259
00:21:10,400 --> 00:21:12,149
this story is being told. The perfect
victim myth is the false belief that

1260
00:21:12,149 --> 00:21:12,159
victim myth is the false belief that
 

1261
00:21:12,159 --> 00:21:14,549
victim myth is the false belief that
only people who act a certain way, calm,

1262
00:21:14,549 --> 00:21:14,559
only people who act a certain way, calm,
 

1263
00:21:14,559 --> 00:21:16,310
only people who act a certain way, calm,
consistent, blameless, and immediately

1264
00:21:16,310 --> 00:21:16,320
consistent, blameless, and immediately
 

1265
00:21:16,320 --> 00:21:18,789
consistent, blameless, and immediately
reporting abuse, are credible victims.

1266
00:21:18,789 --> 00:21:18,799
reporting abuse, are credible victims.
 

1267
00:21:18,799 --> 00:21:20,870
reporting abuse, are credible victims.
It's used to discredit survivors whose

1268
00:21:20,870 --> 00:21:20,880
It's used to discredit survivors whose
 

1269
00:21:20,880 --> 00:21:22,630
It's used to discredit survivors whose
reactions or histories don't fit that

1270
00:21:22,630 --> 00:21:22,640
reactions or histories don't fit that
 

1271
00:21:22,640 --> 00:21:24,789
reactions or histories don't fit that
narrow, unrealistic mold, or even

1272
00:21:24,789 --> 00:21:24,799
narrow, unrealistic mold, or even
 

1273
00:21:24,799 --> 00:21:26,789
narrow, unrealistic mold, or even
through trauma, often cause delayed

1274
00:21:26,789 --> 00:21:26,799
through trauma, often cause delayed
 

1275
00:21:26,799 --> 00:21:28,630
through trauma, often cause delayed
reporting, memory gaps, continued

1276
00:21:28,630 --> 00:21:28,640
reporting, memory gaps, continued
 

1277
00:21:28,640 --> 00:21:30,870
reporting, memory gaps, continued
contact with the perpetrator, or messy

1278
00:21:30,870 --> 00:21:30,880
contact with the perpetrator, or messy
 

1279
00:21:30,880 --> 00:21:33,510
contact with the perpetrator, or messy
emotional responses. The other part is

1280
00:21:33,510 --> 00:21:33,520
emotional responses. The other part is
 

1281
00:21:33,520 --> 00:21:35,350
emotional responses. The other part is
trauma memory. People have called out

1282
00:21:35,350 --> 00:21:35,360
trauma memory. People have called out
 

1283
00:21:35,360 --> 00:21:37,830
trauma memory. People have called out
Emily's inconsistencies in detail, and I

1284
00:21:37,830 --> 00:21:37,840
Emily's inconsistencies in detail, and I
 

1285
00:21:37,840 --> 00:21:39,750
Emily's inconsistencies in detail, and I
understand that on face value. But

1286
00:21:39,750 --> 00:21:39,760
understand that on face value. But
 

1287
00:21:39,760 --> 00:21:41,669
understand that on face value. But
trauma memory theory is also something

1288
00:21:41,669 --> 00:21:41,679
trauma memory theory is also something
 

1289
00:21:41,679 --> 00:21:43,110
trauma memory theory is also something
to keep in mind while consuming this

1290
00:21:43,110 --> 00:21:43,120
to keep in mind while consuming this
 

1291
00:21:43,120 --> 00:21:45,830
to keep in mind while consuming this
information. Trauma memory refers to the

1292
00:21:45,830 --> 00:21:45,840
information. Trauma memory refers to the
 

1293
00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:47,270
information. Trauma memory refers to the
way the brain encodes and recalls

1294
00:21:47,270 --> 00:21:47,280
way the brain encodes and recalls
 

1295
00:21:47,280 --> 00:21:48,789
way the brain encodes and recalls
traumatic events differently from

1296
00:21:48,789 --> 00:21:48,799
traumatic events differently from
 

1297
00:21:48,799 --> 00:21:51,190
traumatic events differently from
ordinary memories. Because trauma

1298
00:21:51,190 --> 00:21:51,200
ordinary memories. Because trauma
 

1299
00:21:51,200 --> 00:21:53,110
ordinary memories. Because trauma
activates the body survival systems,

1300
00:21:53,110 --> 00:21:53,120
activates the body survival systems,
 

1301
00:21:53,120 --> 00:21:54,470
activates the body survival systems,
memories can become fragmented,

1302
00:21:54,470 --> 00:21:54,480
memories can become fragmented,
 

1303
00:21:54,480 --> 00:21:56,549
memories can become fragmented,
disorganized, or incomplete. Details may

1304
00:21:56,549 --> 00:21:56,559
disorganized, or incomplete. Details may
 

1305
00:21:56,559 --> 00:21:58,230
disorganized, or incomplete. Details may
shift over time, and recall might be

1306
00:21:58,230 --> 00:21:58,240
shift over time, and recall might be
 

1307
00:21:58,240 --> 00:21:59,990
shift over time, and recall might be
delayed. These inconsistencies don't

1308
00:21:59,990 --> 00:22:00,000
delayed. These inconsistencies don't
 

1309
00:22:00,000 --> 00:22:01,830
delayed. These inconsistencies don't
mean someone is lying. They're a well

1310
00:22:01,830 --> 00:22:01,840
mean someone is lying. They're a well
 

1311
00:22:01,840 --> 00:22:03,909
mean someone is lying. They're a well
doumented feature of how trauma affects

1312
00:22:03,909 --> 00:22:03,919
doumented feature of how trauma affects
 

1313
00:22:03,919 --> 00:22:06,390
doumented feature of how trauma affects
the brain. So even though it's been well

1314
00:22:06,390 --> 00:22:06,400
the brain. So even though it's been well
 

1315
00:22:06,400 --> 00:22:08,149
the brain. So even though it's been well
documented that Emily's stories are

1316
00:22:08,149 --> 00:22:08,159
documented that Emily's stories are
 

1317
00:22:08,159 --> 00:22:10,390
documented that Emily's stories are
inconsistent, that alone is a harmful

1318
00:22:10,390 --> 00:22:10,400
inconsistent, that alone is a harmful
 

1319
00:22:10,400 --> 00:22:11,990
inconsistent, that alone is a harmful
standard to be setting for victims in

1320
00:22:11,990 --> 00:22:12,000
standard to be setting for victims in
 

1321
00:22:12,000 --> 00:22:13,270
standard to be setting for victims in
general. And the fact that those

1322
00:22:13,270 --> 00:22:13,280
general. And the fact that those
 

1323
00:22:13,280 --> 00:22:14,789
general. And the fact that those
documented effects were not even

1324
00:22:14,789 --> 00:22:14,799
documented effects were not even
 

1325
00:22:14,799 --> 00:22:16,870
documented effects were not even
mentioned, even with a keep in mind

1326
00:22:16,870 --> 00:22:16,880
mentioned, even with a keep in mind
 

1327
00:22:16,880 --> 00:22:18,710
mentioned, even with a keep in mind
audience, sometimes trauma can cause

1328
00:22:18,710 --> 00:22:18,720
audience, sometimes trauma can cause
 

1329
00:22:18,720 --> 00:22:20,710
audience, sometimes trauma can cause
memory loss issues, but I don't think

1330
00:22:20,710 --> 00:22:20,720
memory loss issues, but I don't think
 

1331
00:22:20,720 --> 00:22:23,190
memory loss issues, but I don't think
this is happening here. Here's why. I

1332
00:22:23,190 --> 00:22:23,200
this is happening here. Here's why. I
 

1333
00:22:23,200 --> 00:22:24,950
this is happening here. Here's why. I
know I'm not one to talk, but this

1334
00:22:24,950 --> 00:22:24,960
know I'm not one to talk, but this
 

1335
00:22:24,960 --> 00:22:26,789
know I'm not one to talk, but this
coverage got a lot of views and you

1336
00:22:26,789 --> 00:22:26,799
coverage got a lot of views and you
 

1337
00:22:26,799 --> 00:22:28,230
coverage got a lot of views and you
couldn't be bothered to ask a mental

1338
00:22:28,230 --> 00:22:28,240
couldn't be bothered to ask a mental
 

1339
00:22:28,240 --> 00:22:30,950
couldn't be bothered to ask a mental
health expert or double check this. And

1340
00:22:30,950 --> 00:22:30,960
health expert or double check this. And
 

1341
00:22:30,960 --> 00:22:33,430
health expert or double check this. And
that brings me to the Skype logs. For

1342
00:22:33,430 --> 00:22:33,440
that brings me to the Skype logs. For
 

1343
00:22:33,440 --> 00:22:34,950
that brings me to the Skype logs. For
those who are not following the case,

1344
00:22:34,950 --> 00:22:34,960
those who are not following the case,
 

1345
00:22:34,960 --> 00:22:36,950
those who are not following the case,
Saber was able to find his Skype log

1346
00:22:36,950 --> 00:22:36,960
Saber was able to find his Skype log
 

1347
00:22:36,960 --> 00:22:38,710
Saber was able to find his Skype log
sometime after the original accusation

1348
00:22:38,710 --> 00:22:38,720
sometime after the original accusation
 

1349
00:22:38,720 --> 00:22:41,190
sometime after the original accusation
started taking off on Twitter. They are

1350
00:22:41,190 --> 00:22:41,200
started taking off on Twitter. They are
 

1351
00:22:41,200 --> 00:22:43,029
started taking off on Twitter. They are
where the baby trapping story

1352
00:22:43,029 --> 00:22:43,039
where the baby trapping story
 

1353
00:22:43,039 --> 00:22:44,950
where the baby trapping story
originates. It's been interpreted as a

1354
00:22:44,950 --> 00:22:44,960
originates. It's been interpreted as a
 

1355
00:22:44,960 --> 00:22:46,710
originates. It's been interpreted as a
smoking gun or proof that the contact

1356
00:22:46,710 --> 00:22:46,720
smoking gun or proof that the contact
 

1357
00:22:46,720 --> 00:22:48,390
smoking gun or proof that the contact
between the two of them was consensual.

1358
00:22:48,390 --> 00:22:48,400
between the two of them was consensual.
 

1359
00:22:48,400 --> 00:22:50,470
between the two of them was consensual.
What the thing is, those Skype logs,

1360
00:22:50,470 --> 00:22:50,480
What the thing is, those Skype logs,
 

1361
00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:52,789
What the thing is, those Skype logs,
those are context, not proof. That's the

1362
00:22:52,789 --> 00:22:52,799
those are context, not proof. That's the
 

1363
00:22:52,799 --> 00:22:54,390
those are context, not proof. That's the
exact definition of circumstantial

1364
00:22:54,390 --> 00:22:54,400
exact definition of circumstantial
 

1365
00:22:54,400 --> 00:22:56,470
exact definition of circumstantial
evidence. Things that might support

1366
00:22:56,470 --> 00:22:56,480
evidence. Things that might support
 

1367
00:22:56,480 --> 00:22:58,470
evidence. Things that might support
version of events but can't prove what

1368
00:22:58,470 --> 00:22:58,480
version of events but can't prove what
 

1369
00:22:58,480 --> 00:23:00,310
version of events but can't prove what
happened inside that room. The only

1370
00:23:00,310 --> 00:23:00,320
happened inside that room. The only
 

1371
00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:01,750
happened inside that room. The only
thing that can prove that is footage

1372
00:23:01,750 --> 00:23:01,760
thing that can prove that is footage
 

1373
00:23:01,760 --> 00:23:03,350
thing that can prove that is footage
from inside the hotel room, which

1374
00:23:03,350 --> 00:23:03,360
from inside the hotel room, which
 

1375
00:23:03,360 --> 00:23:07,750
from inside the hotel room, which
doesn't exist. I assume, I hope. If this

1376
00:23:07,750 --> 00:23:07,760
doesn't exist. I assume, I hope. If this
 

1377
00:23:07,760 --> 00:23:09,510
doesn't exist. I assume, I hope. If this
was a court case, the sky logs that the

1378
00:23:09,510 --> 00:23:09,520
was a court case, the sky logs that the
 

1379
00:23:09,520 --> 00:23:11,029
was a court case, the sky logs that the
evidence wouldn't come close to meeting

1380
00:23:11,029 --> 00:23:11,039
evidence wouldn't come close to meeting
 

1381
00:23:11,039 --> 00:23:12,789
evidence wouldn't come close to meeting
the beyond a reasonable doubt standard

1382
00:23:12,789 --> 00:23:12,799
the beyond a reasonable doubt standard
 

1383
00:23:12,799 --> 00:23:15,909
the beyond a reasonable doubt standard
and even possibly dismissed. And the

1384
00:23:15,909 --> 00:23:15,919
and even possibly dismissed. And the
 

1385
00:23:15,919 --> 00:23:17,430
and even possibly dismissed. And the
fact that they're trying to spin it as

1386
00:23:17,430 --> 00:23:17,440
fact that they're trying to spin it as
 

1387
00:23:17,440 --> 00:23:20,310
fact that they're trying to spin it as
proof is disingenuous at best. Beckett

1388
00:23:20,310 --> 00:23:20,320
proof is disingenuous at best. Beckett
 

1389
00:23:20,320 --> 00:23:22,470
proof is disingenuous at best. Beckett
wants Saber to be innocent. That bias is

1390
00:23:22,470 --> 00:23:22,480
wants Saber to be innocent. That bias is
 

1391
00:23:22,480 --> 00:23:24,149
wants Saber to be innocent. That bias is
showing in how he interpreted my short

1392
00:23:24,149 --> 00:23:24,159
showing in how he interpreted my short
 

1393
00:23:24,159 --> 00:23:26,149
showing in how he interpreted my short
speaking patterns, my coping mechanisms,

1394
00:23:26,149 --> 00:23:26,159
speaking patterns, my coping mechanisms,
 

1395
00:23:26,159 --> 00:23:28,070
speaking patterns, my coping mechanisms,
and his general response to the first

1396
00:23:28,070 --> 00:23:28,080
and his general response to the first
 

1397
00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:30,549
and his general response to the first
part of this video. He's not following

1398
00:23:30,549 --> 00:23:30,559
part of this video. He's not following
 

1399
00:23:30,559 --> 00:23:32,470
part of this video. He's not following
the evidence. He's trying to force the

1400
00:23:32,470 --> 00:23:32,480
the evidence. He's trying to force the
 

1401
00:23:32,480 --> 00:23:34,310
the evidence. He's trying to force the
evidence to fit a conclusion he already

1402
00:23:34,310 --> 00:23:34,320
evidence to fit a conclusion he already
 

1403
00:23:34,320 --> 00:23:37,350
evidence to fit a conclusion he already
likes. That's not analysis. That's an

1404
00:23:37,350 --> 00:23:37,360
likes. That's not analysis. That's an
 

1405
00:23:37,360 --> 00:23:38,950
likes. That's not analysis. That's an
agenda. There's a huge difference

1406
00:23:38,950 --> 00:23:38,960
agenda. There's a huge difference
 

1407
00:23:38,960 --> 00:23:40,470
agenda. There's a huge difference
between I think this points towards

1408
00:23:40,470 --> 00:23:40,480
between I think this points towards
 

1409
00:23:40,480 --> 00:23:42,630
between I think this points towards
innocence and this proves innocence. The

1410
00:23:42,630 --> 00:23:42,640
innocence and this proves innocence. The
 

1411
00:23:42,640 --> 00:23:44,950
innocence and this proves innocence. The
former is a theory. The latter is a lie.

1412
00:23:44,950 --> 00:23:44,960
former is a theory. The latter is a lie.
 

1413
00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:47,510
former is a theory. The latter is a lie.
But KP, I hear your thoughts. What about

1414
00:23:47,510 --> 00:23:47,520
But KP, I hear your thoughts. What about
 

1415
00:23:47,520 --> 00:23:49,270
But KP, I hear your thoughts. What about
how Emily still talked to Saber before

1416
00:23:49,270 --> 00:23:49,280
how Emily still talked to Saber before
 

1417
00:23:49,280 --> 00:23:51,430
how Emily still talked to Saber before
or after the allegations? This is not

1418
00:23:51,430 --> 00:23:51,440
or after the allegations? This is not
 

1419
00:23:51,440 --> 00:23:53,350
or after the allegations? This is not
rare. It's actually documented as common

1420
00:23:53,350 --> 00:23:53,360
rare. It's actually documented as common
 

1421
00:23:53,360 --> 00:23:55,909
rare. It's actually documented as common
in trauma cases. Studies on assault

1422
00:23:55,909 --> 00:23:55,919
in trauma cases. Studies on assault
 

1423
00:23:55,919 --> 00:23:57,830
in trauma cases. Studies on assault
survivors show a significant percentage

1424
00:23:57,830 --> 00:23:57,840
survivors show a significant percentage
 

1425
00:23:57,840 --> 00:23:59,350
survivors show a significant percentage
maintain some level of communication

1426
00:23:59,350 --> 00:23:59,360
maintain some level of communication
 

1427
00:23:59,360 --> 00:24:01,510
maintain some level of communication
with the perpetrator afterwards. Not

1428
00:24:01,510 --> 00:24:01,520
with the perpetrator afterwards. Not
 

1429
00:24:01,520 --> 00:24:03,110
with the perpetrator afterwards. Not
because they weren't harmed, but because

1430
00:24:03,110 --> 00:24:03,120
because they weren't harmed, but because
 

1431
00:24:03,120 --> 00:24:04,630
because they weren't harmed, but because
trauma doesn't erase the social,

1432
00:24:04,630 --> 00:24:04,640
trauma doesn't erase the social,
 

1433
00:24:04,640 --> 00:24:06,789
trauma doesn't erase the social,
emotional, or power dynamics at play.

1434
00:24:06,789 --> 00:24:06,799
emotional, or power dynamics at play.
 

1435
00:24:06,799 --> 00:24:09,430
emotional, or power dynamics at play.
Examples that habitantly a teen still

1436
00:24:09,430 --> 00:24:09,440
Examples that habitantly a teen still
 

1437
00:24:09,440 --> 00:24:11,350
Examples that habitantly a teen still
messaging the teacher who groomed them.

1438
00:24:11,350 --> 00:24:11,360
messaging the teacher who groomed them.
 

1439
00:24:11,360 --> 00:24:13,269
messaging the teacher who groomed them.
A victim laughing politely with the

1440
00:24:13,269 --> 00:24:13,279
A victim laughing politely with the
 

1441
00:24:13,279 --> 00:24:14,870
A victim laughing politely with the
co-orker who assaulted them at an office

1442
00:24:14,870 --> 00:24:14,880
co-orker who assaulted them at an office
 

1443
00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:17,029
co-orker who assaulted them at an office
party. A survivor texting an ex, hope

1444
00:24:17,029 --> 00:24:17,039
party. A survivor texting an ex, hope
 

1445
00:24:17,039 --> 00:24:18,470
party. A survivor texting an ex, hope
you're okay, because they're scared of

1446
00:24:18,470 --> 00:24:18,480
you're okay, because they're scared of
 

1447
00:24:18,480 --> 00:24:20,470
you're okay, because they're scared of
what will happen if they don't. for some

1448
00:24:20,470 --> 00:24:20,480
what will happen if they don't. for some
 

1449
00:24:20,480 --> 00:24:22,630
what will happen if they don't. for some
key documentation and studies. This

1450
00:24:22,630 --> 00:24:22,640
key documentation and studies. This
 

1451
00:24:22,640 --> 00:24:24,390
key documentation and studies. This
article examines how and why some

1452
00:24:24,390 --> 00:24:24,400
article examines how and why some
 

1453
00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:25,750
article examines how and why some
survivors continue interacting with

1454
00:24:25,750 --> 00:24:25,760
survivors continue interacting with
 

1455
00:24:25,760 --> 00:24:27,990
survivors continue interacting with
their asalants after an assault. It

1456
00:24:27,990 --> 00:24:28,000
their asalants after an assault. It
 

1457
00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:29,269
their asalants after an assault. It
discusses dynamics like power

1458
00:24:29,269 --> 00:24:29,279
discusses dynamics like power
 

1459
00:24:29,279 --> 00:24:31,430
discusses dynamics like power
imbalances, coercion, social pressure,

1460
00:24:31,430 --> 00:24:31,440
imbalances, coercion, social pressure,
 

1461
00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:33,510
imbalances, coercion, social pressure,
emotional ties, and the survivor safety

1462
00:24:33,510 --> 00:24:33,520
emotional ties, and the survivor safety
 

1463
00:24:33,520 --> 00:24:35,269
emotional ties, and the survivor safety
calculus. Man, I [\h__\h] failed

1464
00:24:35,269 --> 00:24:35,279
calculus. Man, I [\h__\h] failed
 

1465
00:24:35,279 --> 00:24:37,510
calculus. Man, I [\h__\h] failed
calculus. Although this is more about

1466
00:24:37,510 --> 00:24:37,520
calculus. Although this is more about
 

1467
00:24:37,520 --> 00:24:39,350
calculus. Although this is more about
disclosure and navigating post-t trauma

1468
00:24:39,350 --> 00:24:39,360
disclosure and navigating post-t trauma
 

1469
00:24:39,360 --> 00:24:41,350
disclosure and navigating post-t trauma
life, it includes interview data in

1470
00:24:41,350 --> 00:24:41,360
life, it includes interview data in
 

1471
00:24:41,360 --> 00:24:43,029
life, it includes interview data in
which survivors describe ongoing

1472
00:24:43,029 --> 00:24:43,039
which survivors describe ongoing
 

1473
00:24:43,039 --> 00:24:45,190
which survivors describe ongoing
contact, sometimes forced, sometimes

1474
00:24:45,190 --> 00:24:45,200
contact, sometimes forced, sometimes
 

1475
00:24:45,200 --> 00:24:47,269
contact, sometimes forced, sometimes
voluntary with a person who harmed them

1476
00:24:47,269 --> 00:24:47,279
voluntary with a person who harmed them
 

1477
00:24:47,279 --> 00:24:49,110
voluntary with a person who harmed them
and the psychological complexity behind

1478
00:24:49,110 --> 00:24:49,120
and the psychological complexity behind
 

1479
00:24:49,120 --> 00:24:50,390
and the psychological complexity behind
that. This is more of a general

1480
00:24:50,390 --> 00:24:50,400
that. This is more of a general
 

1481
00:24:50,400 --> 00:24:52,549
that. This is more of a general
reference text on trauma responses. It

1482
00:24:52,549 --> 00:24:52,559
reference text on trauma responses. It
 

1483
00:24:52,559 --> 00:24:54,710
reference text on trauma responses. It
explains how trauma can lead to survival

1484
00:24:54,710 --> 00:24:54,720
explains how trauma can lead to survival
 

1485
00:24:54,720 --> 00:24:56,149
explains how trauma can lead to survival
behaviors, emotional regulation

1486
00:24:56,149 --> 00:24:56,159
behaviors, emotional regulation
 

1487
00:24:56,159 --> 00:24:58,950
behaviors, emotional regulation
difficulties, and relationship paradoxes

1488
00:24:58,950 --> 00:24:58,960
difficulties, and relationship paradoxes
 

1489
00:24:58,960 --> 00:25:00,470
difficulties, and relationship paradoxes
such as ambivalence towards the

1490
00:25:00,470 --> 00:25:00,480
such as ambivalence towards the
 

1491
00:25:00,480 --> 00:25:02,630
such as ambivalence towards the
perpetrator. While it doesn't always

1492
00:25:02,630 --> 00:25:02,640
perpetrator. While it doesn't always
 

1493
00:25:02,640 --> 00:25:05,350
perpetrator. While it doesn't always
name continued contact, in every case,

1494
00:25:05,350 --> 00:25:05,360
name continued contact, in every case,
 

1495
00:25:05,360 --> 00:25:07,990
name continued contact, in every case,
it frames how trauma affects behavior in

1496
00:25:07,990 --> 00:25:08,000
it frames how trauma affects behavior in
 

1497
00:25:08,000 --> 00:25:10,149
it frames how trauma affects behavior in
contexts like this. At the end of the

1498
00:25:10,149 --> 00:25:10,159
contexts like this. At the end of the
 

1499
00:25:10,159 --> 00:25:11,750
contexts like this. At the end of the
day, if your argument only works by

1500
00:25:11,750 --> 00:25:11,760
day, if your argument only works by
 

1501
00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:14,070
day, if your argument only works by
pretending uncertainty doesn't exist,

1502
00:25:14,070 --> 00:25:14,080
pretending uncertainty doesn't exist,
 

1503
00:25:14,080 --> 00:25:16,470
pretending uncertainty doesn't exist,
then you're not seeking truth. You're

1504
00:25:16,470 --> 00:25:16,480
then you're not seeking truth. You're
 

1505
00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:18,950
then you're not seeking truth. You're
seeking comfort. But KP, I hear you

1506
00:25:18,950 --> 00:25:18,960
seeking comfort. But KP, I hear you
 

1507
00:25:18,960 --> 00:25:20,630
seeking comfort. But KP, I hear you
thinking, why do people want this to be

1508
00:25:20,630 --> 00:25:20,640
thinking, why do people want this to be
 

1509
00:25:20,640 --> 00:25:23,190
thinking, why do people want this to be
so cut and dry? A couple of reasons.

1510
00:25:23,190 --> 00:25:23,200
so cut and dry? A couple of reasons.
 

1511
00:25:23,200 --> 00:25:25,830
so cut and dry? A couple of reasons.
>> Number one, emotional investment,

1512
00:25:25,830 --> 00:25:25,840
>> Number one, emotional investment,
 

1513
00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:28,710
>> Number one, emotional investment,
cognitive dissonance. If Becket admired

1514
00:25:28,710 --> 00:25:28,720
cognitive dissonance. If Becket admired
 

1515
00:25:28,720 --> 00:25:30,710
cognitive dissonance. If Becket admired
Cyber, worked with him, or built any

1516
00:25:30,710 --> 00:25:30,720
Cyber, worked with him, or built any
 

1517
00:25:30,720 --> 00:25:32,390
Cyber, worked with him, or built any
part of his identity around believing

1518
00:25:32,390 --> 00:25:32,400
part of his identity around believing
 

1519
00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:34,470
part of his identity around believing
Cyber is a good guy, then hearing a

1520
00:25:34,470 --> 00:25:34,480
Cyber is a good guy, then hearing a
 

1521
00:25:34,480 --> 00:25:36,710
Cyber is a good guy, then hearing a
credible allegation forces a psychic

1522
00:25:36,710 --> 00:25:36,720
credible allegation forces a psychic
 

1523
00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:39,269
credible allegation forces a psychic
collision in his head. The person I

1524
00:25:39,269 --> 00:25:39,279
collision in his head. The person I
 

1525
00:25:39,279 --> 00:25:41,669
collision in his head. The person I
respective might be harmful versus, "I

1526
00:25:41,669 --> 00:25:41,679
respective might be harmful versus, "I
 

1527
00:25:41,679 --> 00:25:43,510
respective might be harmful versus, "I
believe good people don't do bad

1528
00:25:43,510 --> 00:25:43,520
believe good people don't do bad
 

1529
00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:45,269
believe good people don't do bad
things." This tension is called

1530
00:25:45,269 --> 00:25:45,279
things." This tension is called
 

1531
00:25:45,279 --> 00:25:47,350
things." This tension is called
cognitive dissonance, and the human

1532
00:25:47,350 --> 00:25:47,360
cognitive dissonance, and the human
 

1533
00:25:47,360 --> 00:25:49,510
cognitive dissonance, and the human
brain hates it. Most people resolve it

1534
00:25:49,510 --> 00:25:49,520
brain hates it. Most people resolve it
 

1535
00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:51,350
brain hates it. Most people resolve it
by not questioning their worldview, but

1536
00:25:51,350 --> 00:25:51,360
by not questioning their worldview, but
 

1537
00:25:51,360 --> 00:25:53,269
by not questioning their worldview, but
attacking the new information. That's

1538
00:25:53,269 --> 00:25:53,279
attacking the new information. That's
 

1539
00:25:53,279 --> 00:25:54,549
attacking the new information. That's
how you get people twisting themselves

1540
00:25:54,549 --> 00:25:54,559
how you get people twisting themselves
 

1541
00:25:54,559 --> 00:25:56,630
how you get people twisting themselves
into knots to prove someone is innocent

1542
00:25:56,630 --> 00:25:56,640
into knots to prove someone is innocent
 

1543
00:25:56,640 --> 00:25:59,029
into knots to prove someone is innocent
because the alternative threat their own

1544
00:25:59,029 --> 00:25:59,039
because the alternative threat their own
 

1545
00:25:59,039 --> 00:26:00,710
because the alternative threat their own
selfimage.

1546
00:26:00,710 --> 00:26:00,720
selfimage.
 

1547
00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:03,750
selfimage.
Number two, protecting his own ego and

1548
00:26:03,750 --> 00:26:03,760
Number two, protecting his own ego and
 

1549
00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:06,870
Number two, protecting his own ego and
credibility. If Peek publicly defended

1550
00:26:06,870 --> 00:26:06,880
credibility. If Peek publicly defended
 

1551
00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:09,269
credibility. If Peek publicly defended
Cyber early, then his own reputation is

1552
00:26:09,269 --> 00:26:09,279
Cyber early, then his own reputation is
 

1553
00:26:09,279 --> 00:26:11,990
Cyber early, then his own reputation is
now tied to Cyers. If Caber is guilty,

1554
00:26:11,990 --> 00:26:12,000
now tied to Cyers. If Caber is guilty,
 

1555
00:26:12,000 --> 00:26:14,390
now tied to Cyers. If Caber is guilty,
Becket looks foolish, naive, or even

1556
00:26:14,390 --> 00:26:14,400
Becket looks foolish, naive, or even
 

1557
00:26:14,400 --> 00:26:16,390
Becket looks foolish, naive, or even
complicit. That's a hard pill to

1558
00:26:16,390 --> 00:26:16,400
complicit. That's a hard pill to
 

1559
00:26:16,400 --> 00:26:18,870
complicit. That's a hard pill to
swallow. So instead of facing that, he

1560
00:26:18,870 --> 00:26:18,880
swallow. So instead of facing that, he
 

1561
00:26:18,880 --> 00:26:21,350
swallow. So instead of facing that, he
doubles down. This is the most common

1562
00:26:21,350 --> 00:26:21,360
doubles down. This is the most common
 

1563
00:26:21,360 --> 00:26:23,430
doubles down. This is the most common
escalation pattern there is in public

1564
00:26:23,430 --> 00:26:23,440
escalation pattern there is in public
 

1565
00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:25,590
escalation pattern there is in public
scandals. Defenders don't back down

1566
00:26:25,590 --> 00:26:25,600
scandals. Defenders don't back down
 

1567
00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:27,269
scandals. Defenders don't back down
because they think they're right. They

1568
00:26:27,269 --> 00:26:27,279
because they think they're right. They
 

1569
00:26:27,279 --> 00:26:29,430
because they think they're right. They
don't back down because they stake their

1570
00:26:29,430 --> 00:26:29,440
don't back down because they stake their
 

1571
00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:32,630
don't back down because they stake their
own credibility in it. Number three,

1572
00:26:32,630 --> 00:26:32,640
own credibility in it. Number three,
 

1573
00:26:32,640 --> 00:26:33,909
own credibility in it. Number three,
fear of what it says about the

1574
00:26:33,909 --> 00:26:33,919
fear of what it says about the
 

1575
00:26:33,919 --> 00:26:36,149
fear of what it says about the
ecosystem.

1576
00:26:36,149 --> 00:26:36,159
ecosystem.
 

1577
00:26:36,159 --> 00:26:38,549
ecosystem.
If Sabre is guilty, then that means the

1578
00:26:38,549 --> 00:26:38,559
If Sabre is guilty, then that means the
 

1579
00:26:38,559 --> 00:26:40,870
If Sabre is guilty, then that means the
ecosystem that Becket belongs to, fandom

1580
00:26:40,870 --> 00:26:40,880
ecosystem that Becket belongs to, fandom
 

1581
00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:43,110
ecosystem that Becket belongs to, fandom
spaces, YouTube culture, and creator

1582
00:26:43,110 --> 00:26:43,120
spaces, YouTube culture, and creator
 

1583
00:26:43,120 --> 00:26:45,190
spaces, YouTube culture, and creator
communities, is capable of harboring

1584
00:26:45,190 --> 00:26:45,200
communities, is capable of harboring
 

1585
00:26:45,200 --> 00:26:47,510
communities, is capable of harboring
predators. And that truth is terrifying

1586
00:26:47,510 --> 00:26:47,520
predators. And that truth is terrifying
 

1587
00:26:47,520 --> 00:26:49,110
predators. And that truth is terrifying
for people who built their careers

1588
00:26:49,110 --> 00:26:49,120
for people who built their careers
 

1589
00:26:49,120 --> 00:26:51,669
for people who built their careers
inside those worlds. So instead, they

1590
00:26:51,669 --> 00:26:51,679
inside those worlds. So instead, they
 

1591
00:26:51,679 --> 00:26:54,710
inside those worlds. So instead, they
cling to he's innocent because it allows

1592
00:26:54,710 --> 00:26:54,720
cling to he's innocent because it allows
 

1593
00:26:54,720 --> 00:26:57,350
cling to he's innocent because it allows
them to believe this system is fine.

1594
00:26:57,350 --> 00:26:57,360
them to believe this system is fine.
 

1595
00:26:57,360 --> 00:26:59,590
them to believe this system is fine.
It's not really about defending one man.

1596
00:26:59,590 --> 00:26:59,600
It's not really about defending one man.
 

1597
00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:01,750
It's not really about defending one man.
It's defending their sense of safety and

1598
00:27:01,750 --> 00:27:01,760
It's defending their sense of safety and
 

1599
00:27:01,760 --> 00:27:04,630
It's defending their sense of safety and
control. Number four, control the

1600
00:27:04,630 --> 00:27:04,640
control. Number four, control the
 

1601
00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:06,789
control. Number four, control the
narrative. If Becket flames himself as a

1602
00:27:06,789 --> 00:27:06,799
narrative. If Becket flames himself as a
 

1603
00:27:06,799 --> 00:27:09,269
narrative. If Becket flames himself as a
rational voice who knows what's true, he

1604
00:27:09,269 --> 00:27:09,279
rational voice who knows what's true, he
 

1605
00:27:09,279 --> 00:27:11,269
rational voice who knows what's true, he
gets to control how people talk about

1606
00:27:11,269 --> 00:27:11,279
gets to control how people talk about
 

1607
00:27:11,279 --> 00:27:13,269
gets to control how people talk about
the story. That gives him social power.

1608
00:27:13,269 --> 00:27:13,279
the story. That gives him social power.
 

1609
00:27:13,279 --> 00:27:15,029
the story. That gives him social power.
and social power, especially in internet

1610
00:27:15,029 --> 00:27:15,039
and social power, especially in internet
 

1611
00:27:15,039 --> 00:27:17,269
and social power, especially in internet
culture, is indictive.

1612
00:27:17,269 --> 00:27:17,279
culture, is indictive.
 

1613
00:27:17,279 --> 00:27:19,350
culture, is indictive.
Claiming there's no smoking gun or

1614
00:27:19,350 --> 00:27:19,360
Claiming there's no smoking gun or
 

1615
00:27:19,360 --> 00:27:20,870
Claiming there's no smoking gun or
telling a survivor they should should

1616
00:27:20,870 --> 00:27:20,880
telling a survivor they should should
 

1617
00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:23,029
telling a survivor they should should
have spoken up isn't just bad trauma

1618
00:27:23,029 --> 00:27:23,039
have spoken up isn't just bad trauma
 

1619
00:27:23,039 --> 00:27:24,950
have spoken up isn't just bad trauma
literacy. It's attempts to reshape the

1620
00:27:24,950 --> 00:27:24,960
literacy. It's attempts to reshape the
 

1621
00:27:24,960 --> 00:27:26,789
literacy. It's attempts to reshape the
story so that Becket is the authority

1622
00:27:26,789 --> 00:27:26,799
story so that Becket is the authority
 

1623
00:27:26,799 --> 00:27:29,350
story so that Becket is the authority
and you're the one who doesn't get it.

1624
00:27:29,350 --> 00:27:29,360
and you're the one who doesn't get it.
 

1625
00:27:29,360 --> 00:27:31,669
and you're the one who doesn't get it.
Bottom line, it's not necessarily about

1626
00:27:31,669 --> 00:27:31,679
Bottom line, it's not necessarily about
 

1627
00:27:31,679 --> 00:27:33,350
Bottom line, it's not necessarily about
Saber's innocence at all. It's about

1628
00:27:33,350 --> 00:27:33,360
Saber's innocence at all. It's about
 

1629
00:27:33,360 --> 00:27:35,430
Saber's innocence at all. It's about
Becket's comfort, Beckett's image,

1630
00:27:35,430 --> 00:27:35,440
Becket's comfort, Beckett's image,
 

1631
00:27:35,440 --> 00:27:37,029
Becket's comfort, Beckett's image,
Becket's worldview, and maybe even

1632
00:27:37,029 --> 00:27:37,039
Becket's worldview, and maybe even
 

1633
00:27:37,039 --> 00:27:38,950
Becket's worldview, and maybe even
Becket's power. That's why people twist

1634
00:27:38,950 --> 00:27:38,960
Becket's power. That's why people twist
 

1635
00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:40,390
Becket's power. That's why people twist
themselves into pretzels to defend

1636
00:27:40,390 --> 00:27:40,400
themselves into pretzels to defend
 

1637
00:27:40,400 --> 00:27:42,390
themselves into pretzels to defend
someone because the alternative forces

1638
00:27:42,390 --> 00:27:42,400
someone because the alternative forces
 

1639
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:44,549
someone because the alternative forces
them to question themselves. Cognitive

1640
00:27:44,549 --> 00:27:44,559
them to question themselves. Cognitive
 

1641
00:27:44,559 --> 00:27:47,029
them to question themselves. Cognitive
dissonance 101 and why it's showing up

1642
00:27:47,029 --> 00:27:47,039
dissonance 101 and why it's showing up
 

1643
00:27:47,039 --> 00:27:49,190
dissonance 101 and why it's showing up
here. Cognitive dissonance is that awful

1644
00:27:49,190 --> 00:27:49,200
here. Cognitive dissonance is that awful
 

1645
00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:50,870
here. Cognitive dissonance is that awful
itchy tension our brains feel when we're

1646
00:27:50,870 --> 00:27:50,880
itchy tension our brains feel when we're
 

1647
00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:53,029
itchy tension our brains feel when we're
holding two conflicting belief at once.

1648
00:27:53,029 --> 00:27:53,039
holding two conflicting belief at once.
 

1649
00:27:53,039 --> 00:27:55,590
holding two conflicting belief at once.
Example, Saber is a good person. Good

1650
00:27:55,590 --> 00:27:55,600
Example, Saber is a good person. Good
 

1651
00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:57,510
Example, Saber is a good person. Good
people don't assault others. There are

1652
00:27:57,510 --> 00:27:57,520
people don't assault others. There are
 

1653
00:27:57,520 --> 00:27:59,990
people don't assault others. There are
allegations Saber assaulted someone. All

1654
00:27:59,990 --> 00:28:00,000
allegations Saber assaulted someone. All
 

1655
00:28:00,000 --> 00:28:02,149
allegations Saber assaulted someone. All
three can't comfortably coexist.

1656
00:28:02,149 --> 00:28:02,159
three can't comfortably coexist.
 

1657
00:28:02,159 --> 00:28:03,830
three can't comfortably coexist.
Something has to give. And instead of

1658
00:28:03,830 --> 00:28:03,840
Something has to give. And instead of
 

1659
00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:05,430
Something has to give. And instead of
changing the first belief, Sabre is a

1660
00:28:05,430 --> 00:28:05,440
changing the first belief, Sabre is a
 

1661
00:28:05,440 --> 00:28:07,029
changing the first belief, Sabre is a
good person, many people would distort

1662
00:28:07,029 --> 00:28:07,039
good person, many people would distort
 

1663
00:28:07,039 --> 00:28:08,789
good person, many people would distort
or reject the third one, the allegations

1664
00:28:08,789 --> 00:28:08,799
or reject the third one, the allegations
 

1665
00:28:08,799 --> 00:28:11,350
or reject the third one, the allegations
must be false. To reduce that tension,

1666
00:28:11,350 --> 00:28:11,360
must be false. To reduce that tension,
 

1667
00:28:11,360 --> 00:28:13,990
must be false. To reduce that tension,
>> but this line is a kicker. Becket makes

1668
00:28:13,990 --> 00:28:14,000
>> but this line is a kicker. Becket makes
 

1669
00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:16,070
>> but this line is a kicker. Becket makes
a comment about how he never stated he

1670
00:28:16,070 --> 00:28:16,080
a comment about how he never stated he
 

1671
00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:17,590
a comment about how he never stated he
wasn't going to be unbiased in his

1672
00:28:17,590 --> 00:28:17,600
wasn't going to be unbiased in his
 

1673
00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:18,230
wasn't going to be unbiased in his
coverage.

1674
00:28:18,230 --> 00:28:18,240
coverage.
 

1675
00:28:18,240 --> 00:28:20,230
coverage.
>> Number one, he wanted to win a nar

1676
00:28:20,230 --> 00:28:20,240
>> Number one, he wanted to win a nar
 

1677
00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:22,470
>> Number one, he wanted to win a nar
battle, not seek truth. Once someone

1678
00:28:22,470 --> 00:28:22,480
battle, not seek truth. Once someone
 

1679
00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:24,470
battle, not seek truth. Once someone
stakes their ego or worldview on certain

1680
00:28:24,470 --> 00:28:24,480
stakes their ego or worldview on certain
 

1681
00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:26,549
stakes their ego or worldview on certain
versions of events, Saber is innocent,

1682
00:28:26,549 --> 00:28:26,559
versions of events, Saber is innocent,
 

1683
00:28:26,559 --> 00:28:30,230
versions of events, Saber is innocent,
Emily is lying, KP is wrong. They they

1684
00:28:30,230 --> 00:28:30,240
Emily is lying, KP is wrong. They they
 

1685
00:28:30,240 --> 00:28:32,149
Emily is lying, KP is wrong. They they
stop acting like a reporter and start

1686
00:28:32,149 --> 00:28:32,159
stop acting like a reporter and start
 

1687
00:28:32,159 --> 00:28:34,389
stop acting like a reporter and start
acting like a liar. A lawyer's job isn't

1688
00:28:34,389 --> 00:28:34,399
acting like a liar. A lawyer's job isn't
 

1689
00:28:34,399 --> 00:28:36,149
acting like a liar. A lawyer's job isn't
to find the truth. It's to make their

1690
00:28:36,149 --> 00:28:36,159
to find the truth. It's to make their
 

1691
00:28:36,159 --> 00:28:38,870
to find the truth. It's to make their
site sound right. By admitting his bias,

1692
00:28:38,870 --> 00:28:38,880
site sound right. By admitting his bias,
 

1693
00:28:38,880 --> 00:28:40,710
site sound right. By admitting his bias,
Becca is basically saying the quiet part

1694
00:28:40,710 --> 00:28:40,720
Becca is basically saying the quiet part
 

1695
00:28:40,720 --> 00:28:42,789
Becca is basically saying the quiet part
out loud. He didn't enter that video

1696
00:28:42,789 --> 00:28:42,799
out loud. He didn't enter that video
 

1697
00:28:42,799 --> 00:28:45,190
out loud. He didn't enter that video
asking what really happened. He entered

1698
00:28:45,190 --> 00:28:45,200
asking what really happened. He entered
 

1699
00:28:45,200 --> 00:28:47,430
asking what really happened. He entered
asking, "How do I convince someone my

1700
00:28:47,430 --> 00:28:47,440
asking, "How do I convince someone my
 

1701
00:28:47,440 --> 00:28:50,630
asking, "How do I convince someone my
version is right?" Number two, cognitive

1702
00:28:50,630 --> 00:28:50,640
version is right?" Number two, cognitive
 

1703
00:28:50,640 --> 00:28:53,269
version is right?" Number two, cognitive
dissonance again, but turned into a

1704
00:28:53,269 --> 00:28:53,279
dissonance again, but turned into a
 

1705
00:28:53,279 --> 00:28:54,789
dissonance again, but turned into a
self-preservation.

1706
00:28:54,789 --> 00:28:54,799
self-preservation.
 

1707
00:28:54,799 --> 00:28:57,110
self-preservation.
If Becca's internal story is SE is

1708
00:28:57,110 --> 00:28:57,120
If Becca's internal story is SE is
 

1709
00:28:57,120 --> 00:28:58,710
If Becca's internal story is SE is
innocent and he's already publicly

1710
00:28:58,710 --> 00:28:58,720
innocent and he's already publicly
 

1711
00:28:58,720 --> 00:29:00,310
innocent and he's already publicly
aligned with that, backing up now would

1712
00:29:00,310 --> 00:29:00,320
aligned with that, backing up now would
 

1713
00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:02,470
aligned with that, backing up now would
mean admitting he might have been wrong.

1714
00:29:02,470 --> 00:29:02,480
mean admitting he might have been wrong.
 

1715
00:29:02,480 --> 00:29:03,669
mean admitting he might have been wrong.
He might have hurt people with his

1716
00:29:03,669 --> 00:29:03,679
He might have hurt people with his
 

1717
00:29:03,679 --> 00:29:06,070
He might have hurt people with his
coverage. His credibility may take a

1718
00:29:06,070 --> 00:29:06,080
coverage. His credibility may take a
 

1719
00:29:06,080 --> 00:29:07,590
coverage. His credibility may take a
hint. And for a lot of people, that's

1720
00:29:07,590 --> 00:29:07,600
hint. And for a lot of people, that's
 

1721
00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:09,430
hint. And for a lot of people, that's
unbearable. So instead, they doubled

1722
00:29:09,430 --> 00:29:09,440
unbearable. So instead, they doubled
 

1723
00:29:09,440 --> 00:29:11,430
unbearable. So instead, they doubled
down even harder and built whole videos

1724
00:29:11,430 --> 00:29:11,440
down even harder and built whole videos
 

1725
00:29:11,440 --> 00:29:13,430
down even harder and built whole videos
around protecting that narrative. That's

1726
00:29:13,430 --> 00:29:13,440
around protecting that narrative. That's
 

1727
00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:15,510
around protecting that narrative. That's
not logic. That's a subconscious safe

1728
00:29:15,510 --> 00:29:15,520
not logic. That's a subconscious safe
 

1729
00:29:15,520 --> 00:29:19,029
not logic. That's a subconscious safe
face reflex. Number three, Bose, clout,

1730
00:29:19,029 --> 00:29:19,039
face reflex. Number three, Bose, clout,
 

1731
00:29:19,039 --> 00:29:21,430
face reflex. Number three, Bose, clout,
and audience reinforcement. Let's be

1732
00:29:21,430 --> 00:29:21,440
and audience reinforcement. Let's be
 

1733
00:29:21,440 --> 00:29:24,149
and audience reinforcement. Let's be
blunt. outrage videos, especially ones

1734
00:29:24,149 --> 00:29:24,159
blunt. outrage videos, especially ones
 

1735
00:29:24,159 --> 00:29:25,750
blunt. outrage videos, especially ones
where someone declares themselves as the

1736
00:29:25,750 --> 00:29:25,760
where someone declares themselves as the
 

1737
00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:28,230
where someone declares themselves as the
reasonable voice against the emotional

1738
00:29:28,230 --> 00:29:28,240
reasonable voice against the emotional
 

1739
00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:31,669
reasonable voice against the emotional
mob, perform really well on YouTube. If

1740
00:29:31,669 --> 00:29:31,679
mob, perform really well on YouTube. If
 

1741
00:29:31,679 --> 00:29:33,430
mob, perform really well on YouTube. If
Becket's audience is mostly saber

1742
00:29:33,430 --> 00:29:33,440
Becket's audience is mostly saber
 

1743
00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:35,430
Becket's audience is mostly saber
defenders or phenom contrarians, then

1744
00:29:35,430 --> 00:29:35,440
defenders or phenom contrarians, then
 

1745
00:29:35,440 --> 00:29:37,110
defenders or phenom contrarians, then
there's pressure to deliver a video that

1746
00:29:37,110 --> 00:29:37,120
there's pressure to deliver a video that
 

1747
00:29:37,120 --> 00:29:38,389
there's pressure to deliver a video that
confirms what they already want to

1748
00:29:38,389 --> 00:29:38,399
confirms what they already want to
 

1749
00:29:38,399 --> 00:29:40,870
confirms what they already want to
believe. Bias isn't a bug in that model.

1750
00:29:40,870 --> 00:29:40,880
believe. Bias isn't a bug in that model.
 

1751
00:29:40,880 --> 00:29:43,430
believe. Bias isn't a bug in that model.
It's the selling point. Number four,

1752
00:29:43,430 --> 00:29:43,440
It's the selling point. Number four,
 

1753
00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:45,990
It's the selling point. Number four,
objectivity isn't the point.

1754
00:29:45,990 --> 00:29:46,000
objectivity isn't the point.
 

1755
00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:49,190
objectivity isn't the point.
Delegitimizing you is. Even in an

1756
00:29:49,190 --> 00:29:49,200
Delegitimizing you is. Even in an
 

1757
00:29:49,200 --> 00:29:50,950
Delegitimizing you is. Even in an
obviously biased video, you can still

1758
00:29:50,950 --> 00:29:50,960
obviously biased video, you can still
 

1759
00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:52,630
obviously biased video, you can still
achieve a goal, undermining your

1760
00:29:52,630 --> 00:29:52,640
achieve a goal, undermining your
 

1761
00:29:52,640 --> 00:29:54,950
achieve a goal, undermining your
credibility. If Becket can convince

1762
00:29:54,950 --> 00:29:54,960
credibility. If Becket can convince
 

1763
00:29:54,960 --> 00:29:56,710
credibility. If Becket can convince
people you are irrational, emotional,

1764
00:29:56,710 --> 00:29:56,720
people you are irrational, emotional,
 

1765
00:29:56,720 --> 00:29:58,789
people you are irrational, emotional,
unreliable, or making it up, then they

1766
00:29:58,789 --> 00:29:58,799
unreliable, or making it up, then they
 

1767
00:29:58,799 --> 00:29:59,990
unreliable, or making it up, then they
never have to deal with the actual

1768
00:29:59,990 --> 00:30:00,000
never have to deal with the actual
 

1769
00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:01,830
never have to deal with the actual
content of your arguments. That's why

1770
00:30:01,830 --> 00:30:01,840
content of your arguments. That's why
 

1771
00:30:01,840 --> 00:30:03,350
content of your arguments. That's why
people like him focus on your tone, your

1772
00:30:03,350 --> 00:30:03,360
people like him focus on your tone, your
 

1773
00:30:03,360 --> 00:30:04,789
people like him focus on your tone, your
character, your phrasing, anything

1774
00:30:04,789 --> 00:30:04,799
character, your phrasing, anything
 

1775
00:30:04,799 --> 00:30:06,310
character, your phrasing, anything
except the systemic issues you're

1776
00:30:06,310 --> 00:30:06,320
except the systemic issues you're
 

1777
00:30:06,320 --> 00:30:08,149
except the systemic issues you're
raising. Because if the messenger is

1778
00:30:08,149 --> 00:30:08,159
raising. Because if the messenger is
 

1779
00:30:08,159 --> 00:30:11,590
raising. Because if the messenger is
tainted, they can't be ignored.

1780
00:30:11,590 --> 00:30:11,600
tainted, they can't be ignored.
 

1781
00:30:11,600 --> 00:30:13,750
tainted, they can't be ignored.
Bottom line, if someone admits they're

1782
00:30:13,750 --> 00:30:13,760
Bottom line, if someone admits they're
 

1783
00:30:13,760 --> 00:30:15,510
Bottom line, if someone admits they're
biased and still steps into a public

1784
00:30:15,510 --> 00:30:15,520
biased and still steps into a public
 

1785
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:17,269
biased and still steps into a public
analysis role, they're not

1786
00:30:17,269 --> 00:30:17,279
analysis role, they're not
 

1787
00:30:17,279 --> 00:30:19,190
analysis role, they're not
investigating. They're compelling.

1788
00:30:19,190 --> 00:30:19,200
investigating. They're compelling.
 

1789
00:30:19,200 --> 00:30:21,029
investigating. They're compelling.
They're trying to win a story, not

1790
00:30:21,029 --> 00:30:21,039
They're trying to win a story, not
 

1791
00:30:21,039 --> 00:30:23,190
They're trying to win a story, not
understand a situation. And that's why

1792
00:30:23,190 --> 00:30:23,200
understand a situation. And that's why
 

1793
00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:25,269
understand a situation. And that's why
his arguments fall apart under scr

1794
00:30:25,269 --> 00:30:25,279
his arguments fall apart under scr
 

1795
00:30:25,279 --> 00:30:26,950
his arguments fall apart under scr
because they're not built to hold truth.

1796
00:30:26,950 --> 00:30:26,960
because they're not built to hold truth.
 

1797
00:30:26,960 --> 00:30:28,549
because they're not built to hold truth.
They're built to hold comfort.

1798
00:30:28,549 --> 00:30:28,559
They're built to hold comfort.
 

1799
00:30:28,559 --> 00:30:29,990
They're built to hold comfort.
>> You just admitted you were trying to

1800
00:30:29,990 --> 00:30:30,000
>> You just admitted you were trying to
 

1801
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>> You just admitted you were trying to
pressure me based on biased and

1802
00:30:31,669 --> 00:30:31,679
pressure me based on biased and
 

1803
00:30:31,679 --> 00:30:33,510
pressure me based on biased and
conditional evidence. Why would I have

1804
00:30:33,510 --> 00:30:33,520
conditional evidence. Why would I have
 

1805
00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:35,669
conditional evidence. Why would I have
taken the call if I would have known

1806
00:30:35,669 --> 00:30:35,679
taken the call if I would have known
 

1807
00:30:35,679 --> 00:30:38,389
taken the call if I would have known
this was your intention? Ending. I think

1808
00:30:38,389 --> 00:30:38,399
this was your intention? Ending. I think
 

1809
00:30:38,399 --> 00:30:39,909
this was your intention? Ending. I think
one of the worst parts of this process

1810
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one of the worst parts of this process
 

1811
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one of the worst parts of this process
is not only the fact that the kids in

1812
00:30:42,070 --> 00:30:42,080
is not only the fact that the kids in
 

1813
00:30:42,080 --> 00:30:43,430
is not only the fact that the kids in
the DA game spaces are getting

1814
00:30:43,430 --> 00:30:43,440
the DA game spaces are getting
 

1815
00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:44,789
the DA game spaces are getting
overlooked by the rest of the Fallout

1816
00:30:44,789 --> 00:30:44,799
overlooked by the rest of the Fallout
 

1817
00:30:44,799 --> 00:30:47,830
overlooked by the rest of the Fallout
with the video. It's just that I love

1818
00:30:47,830 --> 00:30:47,840
with the video. It's just that I love
 

1819
00:30:47,840 --> 00:30:50,630
with the video. It's just that I love
doing this. I love making content. I

1820
00:30:50,630 --> 00:30:50,640
doing this. I love making content. I
 

1821
00:30:50,640 --> 00:30:51,909
doing this. I love making content. I
thought I could help this community take

1822
00:30:51,909 --> 00:30:51,919
thought I could help this community take
 

1823
00:30:51,919 --> 00:30:53,350
thought I could help this community take
accountability to the kids they have in

1824
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accountability to the kids they have in
 

1825
00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:56,149
accountability to the kids they have in
their sphere. So, if you gain anything

1826
00:30:56,149 --> 00:30:56,159
their sphere. So, if you gain anything
 

1827
00:30:56,159 --> 00:30:57,430
their sphere. So, if you gain anything
from this, please look into the

1828
00:30:57,430 --> 00:30:57,440
from this, please look into the
 

1829
00:30:57,440 --> 00:30:59,590
from this, please look into the
documentation because unlike the Saber

1830
00:30:59,590 --> 00:30:59,600
documentation because unlike the Saber
 

1831
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documentation because unlike the Saber
and Emily situation, there is mountains

1832
00:31:01,750 --> 00:31:01,760
and Emily situation, there is mountains
 

1833
00:31:01,760 --> 00:31:03,750
and Emily situation, there is mountains
of proof grooming has gone on in their

1834
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of proof grooming has gone on in their
 

1835
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of proof grooming has gone on in their
spaces unaccounted for. And the general

1836
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spaces unaccounted for. And the general
 

1837
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spaces unaccounted for. And the general
consensus is that Will Ryan is too

1838
00:31:07,990 --> 00:31:08,000
consensus is that Will Ryan is too
 

1839
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consensus is that Will Ryan is too
conflict avoidant to take care of his

1840
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conflict avoidant to take care of his
 

1841
00:31:10,159 --> 00:31:12,630
conflict avoidant to take care of his
community and protect these kids from

1842
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community and protect these kids from
 

1843
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community and protect these kids from
people in his own community and from his

1844
00:31:14,870 --> 00:31:14,880
people in his own community and from his
 

1845
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people in his own community and from his
lack of boundaries. This is public

1846
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lack of boundaries. This is public
 

1847
00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:19,110
lack of boundaries. This is public
gaslighting. They are trying to rewrite

1848
00:31:19,110 --> 00:31:19,120
gaslighting. They are trying to rewrite
 

1849
00:31:19,120 --> 00:31:21,510
gaslighting. They are trying to rewrite
definitions of evidence, consent, and

1850
00:31:21,510 --> 00:31:21,520
definitions of evidence, consent, and
 

1851
00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:23,830
definitions of evidence, consent, and
credibility, shift blame, distort

1852
00:31:23,830 --> 00:31:23,840
credibility, shift blame, distort
 

1853
00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:26,149
credibility, shift blame, distort
context, not clarify the truth, but

1854
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context, not clarify the truth, but
 

1855
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context, not clarify the truth, but
erode it until people give up trying to

1856
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erode it until people give up trying to
 

1857
00:31:28,320 --> 00:31:30,310
erode it until people give up trying to
find it. They're doing it to convince

1858
00:31:30,310 --> 00:31:30,320
find it. They're doing it to convince
 

1859
00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:32,230
find it. They're doing it to convince
the bystanders, the people who don't

1860
00:31:32,230 --> 00:31:32,240
the bystanders, the people who don't
 

1861
00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:34,230
the bystanders, the people who don't
know the full story and might be swayed

1862
00:31:34,230 --> 00:31:34,240
know the full story and might be swayed
 

1863
00:31:34,240 --> 00:31:37,669
know the full story and might be swayed
by repetition and certainty. So, I urge

1864
00:31:37,669 --> 00:31:37,679
by repetition and certainty. So, I urge
 

1865
00:31:37,679 --> 00:31:39,509
by repetition and certainty. So, I urge
you to check out the Parlo videos I have

1866
00:31:39,509 --> 00:31:39,519
you to check out the Parlo videos I have
 

1867
00:31:39,519 --> 00:31:41,029
you to check out the Parlo videos I have
linked in the description to get an idea

1868
00:31:41,029 --> 00:31:41,039
linked in the description to get an idea
 

1869
00:31:41,039 --> 00:31:43,350
linked in the description to get an idea
of the full scope of the situation and

1870
00:31:43,350 --> 00:31:43,360
of the full scope of the situation and
 

1871
00:31:43,360 --> 00:31:45,350
of the full scope of the situation and
keep what I said last time. And the

1872
00:31:45,350 --> 00:31:45,360
keep what I said last time. And the
 

1873
00:31:45,360 --> 00:31:48,070
keep what I said last time. And the
thing is, I love doing this. I love

1874
00:31:48,070 --> 00:31:48,080
thing is, I love doing this. I love
 

1875
00:31:48,080 --> 00:31:49,990
thing is, I love doing this. I love
analyzing media and getting to the core

1876
00:31:49,990 --> 00:31:50,000
analyzing media and getting to the core
 

1877
00:31:50,000 --> 00:31:52,710
analyzing media and getting to the core
of why media shapes us so much. I am

1878
00:31:52,710 --> 00:31:52,720
of why media shapes us so much. I am
 

1879
00:31:52,720 --> 00:31:53,990
of why media shapes us so much. I am
turning comments off for this video

1880
00:31:53,990 --> 00:31:54,000
turning comments off for this video
 

1881
00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:56,470
turning comments off for this video
because my mental health literally

1882
00:31:56,470 --> 00:31:56,480
because my mental health literally
 

1883
00:31:56,480 --> 00:31:59,590
because my mental health literally
cannot take anymore. I am turning off

1884
00:31:59,590 --> 00:31:59,600
cannot take anymore. I am turning off
 

1885
00:31:59,600 --> 00:32:01,430
cannot take anymore. I am turning off
comments because this conversation

1886
00:32:01,430 --> 00:32:01,440
comments because this conversation
 

1887
00:32:01,440 --> 00:32:04,070
comments because this conversation
deserves more than knee-jerk outrage. It

1888
00:32:04,070 --> 00:32:04,080
deserves more than knee-jerk outrage. It
 

1889
00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:06,070
deserves more than knee-jerk outrage. It
deserves careful thought and

1890
00:32:06,070 --> 00:32:06,080
deserves careful thought and
 

1891
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deserves careful thought and
accountability. My goal was never to win

1892
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accountability. My goal was never to win
 

1893
00:32:08,559 --> 00:32:10,630
accountability. My goal was never to win
an argument. My goal is to protect kids,

1894
00:32:10,630 --> 00:32:10,640
an argument. My goal is to protect kids,
 

1895
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an argument. My goal is to protect kids,
demand better from creators, and remind

1896
00:32:12,630 --> 00:32:12,640
demand better from creators, and remind
 

1897
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demand better from creators, and remind
everyone that consent, truth, and safety

1898
00:32:15,669 --> 00:32:15,679
everyone that consent, truth, and safety
 

1899
00:32:15,679 --> 00:32:18,789
everyone that consent, truth, and safety
matter than fandom comfort.

1900
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matter than fandom comfort.
 

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matter than fandom comfort.
I hate you.